Today’s topic is something that is becoming common among a lot of people today in relationships. I am talking about those who are in relationships and cheat on the other person they are with. What is so wrong in your relationship that you have to cheat on the other person? Why can’t you just break up with the person you are with first then get with whoever you want? Why stay in the relationship and hurt the other person just because you still have feelings for them?
There are a million questions you can ask these people but most likely there answer will be “I don’t know.” Some might not have a clear definite answer to this question, so once again “WHY DO PEOPLE CHEAT IN RELATIONSHIPS?!”
Top 4 reasons people cheat in relationships:
1. Boredom: They ‘re tired of being with the same person after so long they want something new
2. The Rush: They like the RUSH of keeping secrets and the risk of almost getting caught it gets there adrenaline pumping
3. Revenge: They cheated on you so you cheat on them
4. You allow them to: The person forgives you . . .this just shows that your allowing them to get away with it so they’re going to keep doing it
For those who cheat instead of messing with the persons head why don’t you just break up? Seriously . . . that’s my question for you “WHY DON’T YOU JUST BREAK UP WITH THEM?” Instead of keeping the relationship going just break up, end it and go with the next person that you wanted? Just remember that you get what you ask for. As Tyler Perry applied in his movie “Why Did I Get Married?” this is when the 80/20 rule comes into effect
“The 80/20 Rule is simple. In a healthy relationship, you get about 80 per cent of what you need/want from your partner. They are caring, respectful and share a lot of the same interests as you, but then you meet someone who catches your attention for an unknown reason. It may well be because they fulfill the missing 20 per cent in your relationship – namely the sexual component. Because that 20 per cent has been missing for so long, you quickly conclude, “Hey, this person has everything I am looking for in a partner.” This can be a relationship killer. Since you jump genitals-first for this new interest, you may have given up your 80 per cent loving partner for a 20 per cent fling. The regret automatically sets in.”
In long relationships people assume that they’re not getting enough from the relationship and always jump on the next ship that comes into port but why do that when you may have the BEST thing that ever happened to you? People cheat for the dumbest reason’s all we can do is live and learn from the experience. No matter what it seems like, everyone will get cheated on at one point in life and what you do from there is up to you.
References:
http://travismagazine.wordpress.com/2009/02/10/why-we-cheat-the-8020-rule/
Tyler Perry “Why Did I get Married?”
I agree with most of the things said. i absoluetly despise cheaters. i also believe that things just happen. it shouldn't happen but they do! they're is also a difference between someone who cheated once and a repeated offender.
i agree things just happen its the way of life
kevin this is so dam tru
i love the 80/20 rule cuz its so tru
Here is my situation- ive been in a serious relationship with my boyfriend for almost 10 months after we were on and off for 2 yrs. A month after we started our serious relationship, I kissed a random guy I met during a girls night out. Ive never said anything to my boyfriend. but I wonder, how bad is it? Should I ever tell him?
Srry for responding so late but, yes just tell him get it out the way or it will haunt you its better to get it away, say u made a mistake and if he cares about u that much he will stick around
i love the 80/20 rule