Can We Just Be Friends?

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I feel that I always have to ask people this sometimes because they always assume otherwise. This would be in reference to females of course. This would work vice versa because I know some of my female friends who have more male friends then female friends. So one of my coworkers told me that I don’t give people a chance. I am pretty sure I give people at least once chance. Even though if I know your going to waste my time or if I am not interested in having you in my circle I tell you. I feel its better to be forward with people no matter how you come off. Yes for a while I was telling people “nah I am good, you would be a waste of my time,” but it’s not like I wasn’t right. So to prove her wrong I have been giving everyone a chance. Well technically not everyone a chance because not everyone deserves a chance.
Crazy thing is people assume that you like them right out the gate. How about I get to know you first. How can you like someone you barely know? It baffles me sometimes but people do it. After getting to know someone then I figure you would build some type of feelings for them. If you think they are cool but no feelings really emerge can we just be friends? This is usually a yes and no type of thing. If you don’t establish what you want in the beginning people will immediately assume you like them and want to be with them. That’s not the case sometimes. Can we just be friends and build something? Lets lay that foundation so “maybe” something can move further, if it doesn’t we are still well established friends. Assumptions normally lead to disappointments, so never assume anything.
Just to prove my coworker wrong though I have been giving people a chance and I’ve noticed that people think I like them. Yeah not really, I am just giving you a chance to get to know you. Maybe we could be really good friends. Not that I need more friends but maybe the friendship will lead to something else. Never assume or expect anything from people, go with the flow of the world and just be happy.