The Single/Co-Parent Situation

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I just want to take the time out to s/o those individuals who are parents just because it is not an easy job at all. Your life revolves around your kid(s) and if they are not happy, you’re not happy. I know a lot of great people that are single parents and honestly think they are doing a wonderful job. As I get older I realize that once you have a new responsibility added to your life, you do your best to adjust. Sometimes it isn’t easy and you always hit bumps in the road, but you push yourself through them. Most of the things I write about I have experienced or know people who have experienced them.
My friends know that I attract single moms, I don’t mind it but it’s like why are there so many single parents? Lets face the facts; some people are not ready for new responsibilities. Yes, having a child is a new responsibility that you accepted once you decided to have unprotected sex. Sometimes people make mistakes but having a child is not a mistake. I was having a talk with one of my friends and the other person said the child was a mistake. They did not want to be involved in the child’s life at all. Nothing is ever a mistake, things happen for a reason. Some things in life you aren’t ready for but you try to make the best of it. People think that most single parents are females but no there are guys that are single parents as well. Odd? I know someone who is a great parent. He raises his daughter like a queen, teaches her about life, what to expect from men and encourages her to be great. Overall I let him know that he is a great father and he inspires me to be like him.
The co-parent situation to me is kind of confusing. It’s like both parents are around but one isn’t around as often, just available on the weekends or special occasions. Under certain circumstances I understand that it happens because of many factors but still certain situations I am just like “cut this person off please”. The only reason I say that is because the other person seems like they don’t want that much involvement in the child(s) life at all. For example, say you had a one-night stand with someone, you have a kid and now you’re a parent. You both come to an agreement you will co-parent and be around. The child is mostly with you and the other parent has the child every other week. The other parent starts a family and has a new kid and doesn’t want to be involved as much. Now what? I commend those people who are able to handle situations like this. As long as you are setting a positive example for your child, I don’t see a big deal with it. Things happen in life that we can’t control we just need to push forward and be great.
No matter if you are a single parent, co-parent or parent new responsibilities arise everyday. You have to be willing to grow and change as a person to encounter them. You may not hear this all the time but I think you are doing a great job. Continue being great and encouraging your child to be great.
“Nothing is ever wrong. We learn from every step we take. Whatever you did today was the way it was meant to be. Be proud of you.”