So you are out with your crew and you are all having a great time. Then another group pops up of the opposite gender and you both have about the same number of people in the crew. They looking good, you guys are looking good, so the team makes a move. Everyone picks up on somebody but then you realize the one you got isn’t as pleasing to look at as the other ones. So what do you do? Take one for the team or quickly step away? You know if you step away the team might lose but if you take one for the team you might lose. What do you do?

We have all been in those situations where we literally had to “take one for the team” and it wasn’t the best thing ever. A situation I was put into is when I was with my boys in Miami, having a wonderful time. We was on the beach, had the music bumping, everyone trying to be around us. Three girls walked up on us and my boys pounced like lions trying to find they mate. I was left with the friend they just wanted to bring along. You know how I know she was the friend they really didn’t care about? It’s because she was wearing a 2 piece with a huge c-section scar and had the worst edges I have ever seen in my life. I had to make a life changing decision on if I would “take one for the team” or walk away from this situation. I raised my hands up, said “nope” and walked away. I would not be a victim of this “take one for the team” situation in Miami of all places. I am not the best looking dude in the world but I am acceptable to look at. Sadly she was not and I would not force myself to just sit there and entertain her. I used my “pass” for the year and I was fine with that.

What is the “pass” you ask . . . well it’s something me and a couple of my friends do. We are allowed only 1 pass for the year. Meaning if there are a group of girls and we don’t want to kick it to the one friend we just say “pass” and walk away. Not the best system but it works for us. If you have an understanding with your friends then you guys would have created a system that fits you when you need to be saved or you just want to walk away from a situation. Don’t act like you don’t. I’ve saved a couple of my female friends from dudes who were harassing them. They gave me that one look and I’d smooth walk over, grab her hand and walk off with her while the dude was looking. 

Remember to set some guidelines when it comes to “taking one for the team” because if this isn’t set then we all losing. Sometimes people don’t like being put in these situations but all you can do is live and learn.