Dating is such an interesting thing because it can go left very quickly without you even expecting it. You assume things are going to be flowers and happiness all the time but when it comes to dating it’s never that. A generation with so many options sometimes we are greedy and want everything instead of accepting what’s already present. An anonymous stranger, who let his guard down for a moment and life changed, shared this tea with me to share with my readers.

When we think we find a great person we never want to let them slip through our fingers. We literally have future talks with them about taking trips and enjoying life together. As we get older we realize we don’t want to be 40 and alone, still hitting those 21 and older clubs. When dating someone for more then 7+ months, talking everyday, spending time with each other, I feel like you both have an understanding. You didn’t go into this to waste time but ultimately that’s what happens.

So this guy (Guy A) went to a day party to go link up with his friend. His friend brought another guy (Guy B) who just moved to the town about 3 months ago. They’re exchanging information and then Guy B proceeds to say that his girl is coming to the day party. He said that they are moving in together and that she has been so great to him. A couple moments later the girl walks in and Guy A realizes that’s the girl that he has been talking to for the past couple months. He is completely crushed. The girl is in complete shock and doesn’t even know how to handle the situation. Guy A kept his composure and mentioned to Guy B that’s the girl that he has been talking to for the past couple months. Fast forward, after the entire situation the girl kept hitting Guy A’s phone to try and fix the issue that she caused. It was too late, as you publicly came out with someone and you are moving in with him (“was” moving in. Guy B dropped her after hearing that she had a Guy C). Crazy thing is that friends and family knew about Guy A and would constantly call him for things in regards to her. They didn’t know about Guy B (or Guy C).

If you have options just say you do. No one wants to spend time and put in all this effort with someone who has multiple people. Dating shouldn’t be a game and more value should be put into it. Situations like this make people don’t want to date anymore and just be alone. No one is perfect but wasted time is something we can never get back.