Spiritual healing is not something easy that happens. All you need is time and people who support your journey. Never feel forced or pressured to do things you aren’t ready for.
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Life is a funny and fickle thing… It has been amazing to share in your life, in this little bit, beyond Airsoft…
Honestly what your describing is just part of what makes up being human. Even the most gentle natured people can find themselves at a point where they’re ready to tell people to fly a kite and to back off.
A few years a go I learned that things either are or are not as I perceived them to be. Not rocket science, but this was only the half of it. This lesson came in the face of seeing a friend who looked like they were having a hard time with something, when asked they smiled and assured me they were fine. It didn’t sit well with me and after we made it home from church I called and apologized for pushing the issue but was concerned because of what I saw in his eyes. He ended up thanking me because our of a church of hundreds I saw past the smile and cared enough to pursue the matter. The concept was also taught while facing conflict… the perceived snubbing or being ignored by someone that was looking right at me while I was waiving to them.
If things are as I perceive them, the best course of action is to get out of the way and let God deal with it. Regardless of what is needed, if I am in between God and them I am bound to get hit. If it’s not as I perceive it to be there is nothing to be bothered over to begin with. This notion coupled with 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, helps me contend with just about any situation.
In the context of people pressuring you back to church, as difficult or painful as it may be to go they are standing outside of that pain and difficulty and can see things that tend to be obscured by pain… some may be aloof and unintentionally flippant in it, but most are likely to be speaking it for the benefits of being gathered together with believers. Paul wrote about how a part of the body could live long separated from the body. Cut off a hand and it whithers and dies…
In those moments whether they are just being flippant or sincere in encouraging to come back that concept I mentioned earlier might look like: Hoping that it was out of love and concern, that they wouldn’t be flippant with something like that. I would believe that God was working in their lives and that it was something He put on their hearts. And I would enduring through the emotions the suggestions illicit so that God can work.
I would talk with them and let them know that I appreciate their concern and that God is working on you and bringing healing but that in that moment asking if I were going to be in church was not very helpful and made me not want to go. Instead of asking if I was going to be there maybe warmly greeting me would be a better way of saying we missed you, are thankful you are here, and hope that you are blessed for coming…
We can’t control how other people act, but we can control how we act and respond. We are told to lead our hearts, not be lead by them. Sometimes choosing to do the right thing, despite how we feel (not at all what has been labeled “faking it until you make it”, don’t ever fake it. You can’t lie to God and if you read the Psalms you will find some of the writers were brutally honest in their worship of God) is what lays the foundation for our healing or the frame work that allows us to respond to things that we would have normally reacted to…
All of this is easier said than done, at least at first.