The craziest thing about life is that it’s all trial and error. We are living every moment learning, making mistakes and trying again. Nothing we do will ever be right because we are just living. Life has its ups and downs but there is no right way to live it. Talking to some people I know, who recently contemplated removing themselves from this world, we need to stop thinking that we aren’t doing enough. 

I say this because the world is scary and we are just here for the ride. We are all on our own life journeys trying to figure this shit out. People tend to judge us on our journeys but we should just do us at the end of the day. As a man of color who recommends that EVERYONE should do therapy at some point, some other men came to me on my opinion about it. We are all fucked up in someway or form but I think we should all seek a neutral person who knows nothing about us and that is trained on dealing with these things to talk to. Talking to your friend or talking to family is cool but seek a person who is trained in assisting you with your thoughts. My other go to is talking to God and reading my bible. You can find an answer when you least expect it. Sometimes I find myself overthinking if I am doing the right or wrong things in life but life has always been trial and error. Talking to these men and just reminding them to ignore society’s perspective on how we are supposed to be. Conversations with God have helped me get in a better place over the past 4 years and also talking to a therapist. 

Your mind can be a dangerous place to play at, so it’s always good to remind yourself to take a step back and evaluate. Talk to someone to get you centered and out of a dark place that will just keep getting worse for you. Taking the first step is scary but you’re going to need to take it if you want to improve ON YOU.