The best thing about having a therapist is that they teach you things that can help you in life. They teach you techniques and things they recognize about you. They check you when you need to be checked or give you the praise you’ve been missing. The main thing my therapist taught me is to challenge my thoughts. Ask myself why am I thinking this way, tell myself to push past these thoughts and then to not let it control how I feel. To challenge your thoughts is to not let them consume you to feeling a specific type of way. 

Sometimes I can’t challenge my thoughts and I let them consume me. This is okay because it’s something that is unavoidable. Around my sister and dads birthday or death days, I tend to feel some type of way. Sometimes I feel good but other times I just cry and just sit in my feelings. I always think things are my fault but with challenging myself I’ve learned it isn’t. Just in the back of my mind it sometimes just feels like I could’ve done something more. I just know with situations like this I just let my emotions/feelings flood out and just sit here. It’s okay, as long as I am good. 

For challenging my thoughts when it comes to other stuff, that has become a lot easier for me. Thoughts like, “I am not doing enough in life”, “Are people happy with me”, “Can I be doing more for those around me?”, etc. Challenging my thoughts have helped my anxiety calm down and learn more about myself. I am happy with where I am in my life since I’ve learned something new from my therapist. It’s all about remembering the you of yesterday, is not the you of tomorrow and that you just have to continue improving you.