A couple of questions to ask yourself when dating someone: Can I wait for sex after marriage? Can I wait for sex after we start dating? Do I need to test drive before investing into someone? Is sex a determining factor to being with someone? What if the sex is trash?

A lot comes to mind when building a successful and long lasting relationship but a lot of people I’ve talked to said that additional connection you get from having sex with the other person is crucial to maintaining. It’s not always the defining factor but it will let them know in which direction they want to go with that person. Before investing in someone we like to make sure we are investing in someone that we vibe with. That meets our needs and ultimately makes us happy. Time is something we can never get back and wasted time does not exist in my opinion. Wasted time is better known as learned experience. A time when you learned more about yourself and won’t allow yourself to fall back into that same space.

              Trash sex is just that, trash sex. Sometimes you can’t make it better. It’s up to you how you want to move forward with someone. If you are already in a relationship with them you still have a chance to get out if you don’t like it or stick around and help them get better. If you’re married, I personally don’t believe in divorce so you going to stick it out and help them become better. Marriage is a partnership to help improve your significant other, so you are fully committed.

Do I let myself fall in love first before having sex or do I have sex before falling in love?

I personally think you go with how you feel. However the vibe of life goes, you should go with it. No time limit on things or a timeline of events. Don’t set expectations and once they happen you feel bad. Fall in love when you feel that it’s right and have sex when you feel it’s right. Nothing should be rushed because then it won’t feel natural. Don’t feel forced when someone else does something. You can always take a step back.

The last thing is to never hype up how you are the best at whatever you do. Sexting and phone sex is one thing but when you start telling someone you are the best at this or that then can’t delivery you will be judged. I’ve had so many people tell me stories about people giving them high expectations and they can’t delivery. When people tell me stuff I don’t set expectations, so I am never disappointed and I can still like them afterwards. Sex, love and feelings are something you can’t force. You just vibe and connect with someone, then things happen naturally.