I feel like anything going on between you and someone else should be kept to you. The moment you start telling others then it becomes a lot especially if you are just going to keep that person in your circle. An example would be if you tell me issues you’re having with your boyfriend, I won’t like the dude anymore because he is doing things that aren’t keeping you happy. After you tell me this stuff you are continuing to be with the person like you ain’t just drop some heavy tea about them to me. The world doesn’t work that way. I try my best to mind my business and stay in my bubble but the lord put me on this earth to listen to all these issues to just respond, “oh thats crazy.” I stay in my lane though but once you let that information out I feel like you have started to mentally disconnect from that person.

The reason I say that is because I’ve seen it enough and you are just looking for someone to validate how you feel. You come to the friend with NO filter (me) to confirm how you feel. Once you go to the friend that tells you what it is, you already know how you are about to move for the next couple weeks. I feel like you self sabotage, just to make the situation go away just because you are tired. You start to mentally disconnect from the person and not even know it. Oh he/she doesn’t do this anymore for me or he/she wants to start arguments just because. I feel like the failure of communication between you and the people you are dealing with is the cause of this. Venting to other people is cool but it’s what you do next that can either make or break the situation you are in.

Don’t invite people into your situation so their viewpoint changes on the person you are dealing with. I get it you either want a venting board or want advice but if you aren’t going to do something that tries to resolve the issue, keep your business to yourself. If you have mentally checked out, write down why you’ve mentally checked out and share it with that person. A lot of times you may regret situations after really reviewing them for yourself.