Category Archives: Dating

Chasing The Queen


On one of my daily commutes to work I was talking to an elderly couple who had been married for 52 years and they where revisiting the site where he proposed to her. He proposed to her in Time Square and just wanted to spend the day with her in that area. My conversation with him went as followed:
Kevin: What was the key thing that kept you guys together for so long?
Elder Man: Everyday I treat her like it’s a brand new love, the love I met for the first time. I do everything I did in the beginning to try and win her heart so no one else would take it from me.
Kevin:  What did you do?
Elder Man: Back then we didn’t have phones or the internet so I would walk to her house everyday or write her letters. I would tell her exactly how I felt and try to impress her. Take her out to dinners, picnics and bring her flowers. What we did back then was try and court young women back and stick with the one we had an eye for.
Kevin: Do you feel that people have lost that aspect of courting?
Elder Man: Yes because my grand daughter told me a guy liked her but he didn’t even take her out yet. They would hang out at his house because he had his own place. I’m assuming they are just having getting it on but I told her if he isn’t trying to open your mind to new experiences he isn’t for you. A man that truly wants to be with you will go out of his way to treat you different. He will fall in love with the person you are and not just what he sees on the outside. He will continue chasing you even when he has already won your heart, just to make sure you are forever his.
To cut this story short this had to be one of my many conversations I’ve had with someone older that told me that “courting” someone was an essential part of getting the person you wanted. The thing is does courting in 2015 still exist?  Courtship is defined the act, period, or art of seeking the love of someone with the intent to marry.  I feel once you get past a certain age the games and BS need to stop because the clock is ticking. You don’t want to be 40 and alone with a number of animals named after people you dated, that could have been “the” one. Does courting only apply to men? Women are extremely aggressive now and won’t wait around forever for a man to make up his mind. She will either quickly move on or ask him what is up. Some cases women actually propose to men but that’s a different topic and never in my life do I want to see a woman get on one knee to propose to a man.
Being from this generation I get the difficulties of social media, rumors being spread and things not being serious. The thing is we shouldn’t stop striving to be with someone great and doing great things. Seeing one of my friends get married and seeing him have his Drake moments inspired me to take a more serious look at life. As you get older and wiser things change so you have to change with them.  
 “Chasing the Queen
That inspires me to be a better man
The better man that isn’t like your last
. . .but plans to be your last” – Kevin Pierre

$200 Dates

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So this topic has been coming up a lot in social media circles that I am in. I have no clue why but it started with $200 dates, jumped to $500 dates, then back down to $200 dates. I was so confused on why some people think they deserve $200 dates. Some people expect a $200 date EVERY TIME and nobody got time for that honestly. If you living the “$200 date every time”, life be my guest but I will not be a victim.
83% of people have no clue what a date is and should not expect a $200 date anytime soon. $200 dates are possible but if you don’t know what a date consists of then you wouldn’t know what a $200 date looks like. Most of the standard dates I hear about are dinner and a movie. Yes dinner and a movie can cost $200 but do you really want it to cost that much? Makes no sense to me honestly, unless you’re going to a high-class restaurant and movie theater. If you are on a first date don’t expect anything fancy. If you’ve been dating this person for awhile you should know there budget and if they will bring you on a $200 date. If you’re in a relationship with someone they probably took you on a $200 date that you clearly where not aware of.
Before thinking you deserve a $200 date, define what you think a date is. Most dates are not always fun and just because you spend more money on a date doesn’t mean it will be the best date you’ve ever been on or had. 
These are just my random thoughts.

Chill Session VS Date

                Chill session and dates are 2 different things that I think everyone needs to consider. I take people out on chill sessions over dates. They both mean 2 different things. A chill session is more like the beginning steps of learning about someone. I consider a date a mutual understanding between 2 individuals who would like to grow together and eventually occupy each other’s time.
Why have 2 classifications? People assume WAY toooo much when you take them out and consider everything a date. How about no, this is a chill session and we are friends. We are enjoying each other’s company. People expect so much from dates and when they don’t get it they look at you crazy. No, we are just 2 individuals having a great time together and this is not a date. In this day and age everyone considers everything a date. Hold on, wait a minute . . . can I learn about you first? Or na?
So let’s elaborate a bit, a chill session is meant for those who just want to get to know someone and have a great time. Not saying you won’t have a great time on date just saying you aren’t looking for anything special from this person, in a sense. A date is more so thought out and planned. You go into detail with what you do with this individual because you might want to build something better with them. No one said anything about a $200 date, that’s another topic.
If you barely know what a date is you will never know what one feels like. Don’t set your expectations too high for anything just because you may be let down by disappointment. Before thinking you deserve a $200 date first establish what a date is and will that even be fun. If you are just vibing, just vibe and go on chill sessions so you don’t let someone think you expect more from a date.

Fall For Your Type

I really had to reference Jamie Foxx for this topic, because every time I hear this song my thoughts go into a random trance and just started writing. Falling for the type of person that consumes your mind and makes you happy sometimes is a bad thing. Especially if you KNOW that something bad will come out of it. The whole thing about falling for your type is that you just have to live life and go with the flow. You don’t even know what your type is until you actually meet them. You may say that you want someone 5’5, brown eyes, thick thighs, college educated but 9 times out of 10 you will find something that isn’t what you had on your list.

You always have that mindset that, whatever person is presented to you that if they have these particular qualities about them then they are not your type. The next question is what if they fit some of the stuff on your checklist but not others? Do you just keep it moving or go with the flow? The best and most wonderful people you meet in your life are those you meet on some random stuff. Sitting there searching for your type of person will lead to failure upon failure upon failure. Live life, get out of your norm, experience something with somebody who isn’t your type and see where it goes. You never know unless you give it a try.