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Marvins Room Syndrome

So another day another situation . . . you ever get one of those text messages or phone calls from that one person in your past and it just blows your mind? Or have you been one of those people that sent one of those crazy text messages to someone you use to talk too just because? We all have those situations where either we drink too much and just say fuck it and get in contact with them or we just lost in thought and vent. Every time I hear Drakes Marvins Room song I’m just sitting there like “You gotta be bold to do that” but everyone in some point in their life did it and always reflect on how stupid it was of them to do it.

One of those things that if you’re truly in love with someone and it ends up not working out you experienced it . . . if you haven’t you eventually will. An example of this is if you are chilling with some friends on a bus ride to go somewhere. You guys just start drinking on the bus and you put your headphones on and all you hear is just R&B music on every radio station that makes you catch feelings. Chris Brown, Alicia Keys, Avant, Marvin Gaye, Luthor Vandross, Jill Scott. You already feel nice and buzzed. You just get in a state that just like, “I miss him/her.” Then you text them “I miss you, I want to be with you right now” and this is when you have experienced that “Marvins Room Syndrome.”

Falling into the “Marvins Room Syndrome” is like walking back into your past and trying to fix whatever went wrong. 9.9 times out of 10 YOU know it won’t go back to the way it was before especially if they already moved on. It’s better to just move on and live life, then dwell in the past and try to fix a broken mirror because it will never be the same.


“ . . . let go when you’re hurting too much, give up when love isn’t enough, and move on when things aren’t like before. “

Fall For Your Type

I really had to reference Jamie Foxx for this topic, because every time I hear this song my thoughts go into a random trance and just started writing. Falling for the type of person that consumes your mind and makes you happy sometimes is a bad thing. Especially if you KNOW that something bad will come out of it. The whole thing about falling for your type is that you just have to live life and go with the flow. You don’t even know what your type is until you actually meet them. You may say that you want someone 5’5, brown eyes, thick thighs, college educated but 9 times out of 10 you will find something that isn’t what you had on your list.

You always have that mindset that, whatever person is presented to you that if they have these particular qualities about them then they are not your type. The next question is what if they fit some of the stuff on your checklist but not others? Do you just keep it moving or go with the flow? The best and most wonderful people you meet in your life are those you meet on some random stuff. Sitting there searching for your type of person will lead to failure upon failure upon failure. Live life, get out of your norm, experience something with somebody who isn’t your type and see where it goes. You never know unless you give it a try.

The Claim Game

~Kevin P.
We all have been victims of this at one point or another so we all have a sense of what the claim game is. We play it when we don’t even know we are playing it, the claim game in a sense can either be good or bad. Good in the sense that people know who this person is to you or bad in the sense that people claim you with the wrong title that you really don’t want. People maybe should ask before claiming or make the other person aware that there about to be claimed. Do something that doesn’t make you look stupid and hurt in the process.
When it comes to relationships and getting to know people, we like to claim those people. “Yeah you are wifey I am feeling you” or “Yeah that’s my hubby we chill heavy.” I think as human beings we just naturally do that when we talking or getting to know someone and we feel comfortable with them. Sometimes we lead people on to think that it’s okay for them to give us titles when inside we are just like “WTF?! We just met fall back’” or “Please don’t call me that.” Tell them how you feel so they get the message. You have to set the ground rules in the beginning but if your okay with them calling you the names boo, wifey, hubby, baby etc. do you just be warned it has repercussions if you don’t actually intend to get with them. The “Claim Game” is basically giving someone a TITLE and hoping they act accordingly to the title that was given to them. Next time someone “Claims” you ask yourself “What have I done to allow them to give me a title and think that I am “CLAIMABLE?”


Jamel V. will explain in more detail for those who still don’t understand but this goes BOTH WAYS for male and female.

~Jamal V.
To piggyback on what Kevin began in his last blog, the claim game is a constant fixture in relationships today. Unfortunately, the boundaries of claiming somebody are bleak, uncertain, and can come with a load of mixed feelings and emotional casualties.

The claim game starts as simple as two people who hang out, vibe well, and mesh with each other. You can even say they’re equally yoked. More time is being spent together without the “official” title being put on, and serves as a partial test drive of what’s to come.

There are several problems that can come out of the claim game:

1. Feelings are not balanced and can result in being led on to think something more than what is there.

2. A level of comfort develops, which leads to stagnicity in the relationship, therefore not allowing things to develop further and more maturely.

3. A level of co-dependency develops, which far exceeds the dependent nature of a normal relationship.

These are just the first few problems that come to mind when the infamous and dreaded “claim game” is played.

Unfortunately, I have been a victim of the 3 classic examples listed above. I’ve been lied to about how they feel about me, a level of comfort has been developed, and the women have developed more of a co-dependent relationship with me than I’m sure of anybody in their immediate past. Based on the women of MY past, I question how independent women truly “claim” to be.

In closing, don’t be so quick to claim, then point fingers on who to blame, because you’ll end up being lame, and from square 1 be the same.