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Can We Just Be Friends?

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I feel that I always have to ask people this sometimes because they always assume otherwise. This would be in reference to females of course. This would work vice versa because I know some of my female friends who have more male friends then female friends. So one of my coworkers told me that I don’t give people a chance. I am pretty sure I give people at least once chance. Even though if I know your going to waste my time or if I am not interested in having you in my circle I tell you. I feel its better to be forward with people no matter how you come off. Yes for a while I was telling people “nah I am good, you would be a waste of my time,” but it’s not like I wasn’t right. So to prove her wrong I have been giving everyone a chance. Well technically not everyone a chance because not everyone deserves a chance.
Crazy thing is people assume that you like them right out the gate. How about I get to know you first. How can you like someone you barely know? It baffles me sometimes but people do it. After getting to know someone then I figure you would build some type of feelings for them. If you think they are cool but no feelings really emerge can we just be friends? This is usually a yes and no type of thing. If you don’t establish what you want in the beginning people will immediately assume you like them and want to be with them. That’s not the case sometimes. Can we just be friends and build something? Lets lay that foundation so “maybe” something can move further, if it doesn’t we are still well established friends. Assumptions normally lead to disappointments, so never assume anything.
Just to prove my coworker wrong though I have been giving people a chance and I’ve noticed that people think I like them. Yeah not really, I am just giving you a chance to get to know you. Maybe we could be really good friends. Not that I need more friends but maybe the friendship will lead to something else. Never assume or expect anything from people, go with the flow of the world and just be happy.

The Other Guy (Topic Chosen By JamJam)

Good Morning Readers! Hopefully everyone had a good weekend and enjoyed it! WELL today’s topic is about “The Other Guy.” The other guy I am referring to is the one that females refer to as the one that f**ks them over so they say F all dudes.

It always starts off boy meets girl, they start to talk about themselves and then it gets down to talking about past relationships or people who we talked to before them. (It always good to know about the last person because you can learn things not to do that will piss off the person you trying to talk to now.) When I’m talking to a female first thing they ALWAYS say is the dude fucked her over for another girl or he took her for granted. (Now that we know what the other dude did we try not to make the same mistake) Sometimes when I am talking to my female friend’s conversations usually go like this:

Kevin: So why aren’t you with anyone your mad chill, relaxed and great to talk too.
Female: Well, I’m over dudes at the moment the last guy I was talking to he fucked me over and I am just over dudes, there all the same
Kevin: PAUSE! . . . all dudes are not the same, sorry the ones that you messed with where a different breed. I apologize for them.
Female: Dudes really aren’t shit though they all want the same thing! I hate them all
Kevin: You should rephrase that because the dudes YOU FUCKED with aren’t shit so get it together

That’s how most conversations end . . . . with them saying “Dudes ain’t shit” just say “Dudes I’ve fucked with ain’t shit” then we wouldn’t be so mad. Now that we know your situation, which is very common among females, what is the next step?

Most times when females say they aren’t into talking to people at the moment it’s only because they are still feeling some type of way about the other dude. This other dude messes it up for the rest of the male population because most females are self conscious about this stuff. Some think “okay I don’t want to get hurt again I will play it safe now”, “I don’t want to waste time on another person again” or “I’m not cute enough for anyone else” (YES I’ve heard females say this one). All you can do as a guy is just be there and be supportive , try to prove them wrong that all guys aren’t the same. Females have to remember though they need to stop messing with little boys and start messing with men who won’t treat them like that. Live, learn and move the hell on . . . you can’t let your past troubles define what you do in the future with someone else. If you let your past rule your life then you’ll live in your past forever.

“I like you. Oh thats kool I like you as a friend too” WTF?!

Why is it bad to have a crush/like someone?

Have you ever been in one of those situations when you are feeling someone and your just telling yourself “I’m going to tell them how i feel” but when you do the whole thing blows up in your face? It happens to everyone don’t act like it doesn’t, you tell someone you like them and you get one of these responses:

1.I like you as a friend too
2.Awkward Silence
3.I’m not looking for anything serious right now
4.I’m not interested
5.Thanks for telling me
6.They completely change the subject

When you have a crush/like someone you’ll just start thinking bout them at random times of the day and when you see them sometimes you get tongue tied or just don’t know the right words to say to them (i know that happens to me). Bad thing about having a crush/liking someone is that sometimes they only see you as a friend and nothing more. 9 times out of 10 your the one getting hurt from telling them how you feel. 9 times out of 10 not telling them is just saving you from being burned by someone who may not deserve you at all.

You build up a crush for someone when your getting to know them. I’m not going to front I’ve gotten attached to people “I KNEW” where going to be like “Kevin your the best guy friend I have” or ” I’m not looking for anything serious right now.” This is where the “FRIENDCARD” gets thrown in ALLLLLLL the time. Especially if your crushing hard on someone and they notice and say something like :

1. I think your one of my coolest guy/girl Friend
2. I look at you like my little brother/little sister

Why is it bad to have a crush/like someone? Well . . .cause you usually never win and if you do win your that 1 out of 10 that does, I’m happy for you congratulations. Here is free complementary cookie =) have a nice day

Tomorrow’s Topic: “Taking Risks:Crushing 101”