Category Archives: Friends

#SummerBoo

As the summer draws to a close lets start to thank our summer boo’s for the roles they have played in making sure we had an enjoyable summer. Lets be real, if you are single you had a “Summer Boo”. Someone that you could take places with you, if you didn’t want to go alone. You didn’t consider them a summer boo, you probably just considered them a real good friend. Some people got out relationships right before the summer just so they could have fun for the summer. People don’t get that they are just the summer boo, the temporary fling that people want for the summer. The summer is when people have the most time to do anything and are free, so why not have a summer boo right?
I classify the summer boo as just a temporary person that is around for the summer that you don’t really see yourself with. Sometimes you can under certain circumstances but that is very slim. You already know who you want before you have a summer boo but you get one just because everyone is doing there own thing for the summer. Yes a summer boo can turn into a potential but during the summer people don’t want to be tied down. Why be tied down when you can just have fun? As humans we don’t like doing things alone and when we see couples we are just like “I wish I could have someone to do things with to.” It doesn’t have to be anything physical more so like adventures. Lets go on vacation together or try something new that we have never tried. Don’t forget people catch feelings sometimes. You have to be clear with people so they don’t hurt. Sometimes we don’t care about people’s feelings but you can’t damage friendships for a summer of fun.
As long as you keep a boundary and make it clear what is going on, you won’t lose people. If you don’t someone always gets hurt. As the summer ends don’t forget to come back to reality and remember that it is only for a season. A seasonal lover is never good to have but just someone to experience a good time with isn’t that bad. As long as you are happy that’s all that matters.
“Life is a game. You have to play it your way or people will make you follow their ways”

Can We Just Be Friends?

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I feel that I always have to ask people this sometimes because they always assume otherwise. This would be in reference to females of course. This would work vice versa because I know some of my female friends who have more male friends then female friends. So one of my coworkers told me that I don’t give people a chance. I am pretty sure I give people at least once chance. Even though if I know your going to waste my time or if I am not interested in having you in my circle I tell you. I feel its better to be forward with people no matter how you come off. Yes for a while I was telling people “nah I am good, you would be a waste of my time,” but it’s not like I wasn’t right. So to prove her wrong I have been giving everyone a chance. Well technically not everyone a chance because not everyone deserves a chance.
Crazy thing is people assume that you like them right out the gate. How about I get to know you first. How can you like someone you barely know? It baffles me sometimes but people do it. After getting to know someone then I figure you would build some type of feelings for them. If you think they are cool but no feelings really emerge can we just be friends? This is usually a yes and no type of thing. If you don’t establish what you want in the beginning people will immediately assume you like them and want to be with them. That’s not the case sometimes. Can we just be friends and build something? Lets lay that foundation so “maybe” something can move further, if it doesn’t we are still well established friends. Assumptions normally lead to disappointments, so never assume anything.
Just to prove my coworker wrong though I have been giving people a chance and I’ve noticed that people think I like them. Yeah not really, I am just giving you a chance to get to know you. Maybe we could be really good friends. Not that I need more friends but maybe the friendship will lead to something else. Never assume or expect anything from people, go with the flow of the world and just be happy.

Friend Circles

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I feel that “friend circles” is not addressed enough. People just have one big group of friends and just let them mix and mingle. Let us be real though, not everyone is your friend and not everyone can mix. So we create friend circles in the hope to separate the good, the bad and the ugly. “Friend circles” is another way of knowing who you can go to for certain things and who can’t you go to. Who is down for a trip and who will flake out at the last minute. “Friend circles” does not mean everyone is your friend, it just means that you just need to separate the relevant people from the irrelevant. People like to keep irrelevant people in their lives, the people that are available sometimes but bring you down and still want something in the end. These people are still around, so you keep them in a separate circle.
            I actually have a couple circles and they are: reliable friends, only party with friends, broke friends, cheap friends, successful friends, nosey friends and the “user” friends.  Its good to have these circles because you can distinguish who your real friends are. You cant trust everyone, so to set up “friend circles” will save you the time of knowing who to avoid and who to keep around. Why not just remove the irrelevant people from your life? Well sometimes you have to deal with those people on a regular and they say “keep your friends close and your enemies closer.” If your not dealing with them on a regular tell them to keep it pushing.
            You can’t make everyone happy and not everyone is your friend but separating your groups will make life so much better. We tend to group people together just because we find it easy to manage this one large group. You should distinguish your “friends” from others because one person may belong in one group but not in another.
“A good friend is a connection to life, a tie to the past, a road to the future, the key to sanity in a totally insane world”

Are We Really Friends?

Sometimes I feel that we have to ask this question for the people around us. “Are we really friends?” We have to remember the people that we surround ourselves with, are the people who somewhat reflect what type of person we are. When you surround yourself with a bunch of nobodies, people will consider you a nobody. Lets be honest we judge people on the crowd they surround themselves with, its just human nature


I feel like if I am calling you my friend; that comes with a lot of responsibility. It’s a title I don’t take lightly and I hope no one else does. If you are a friend I feel like you should be able to be direct and talk to me about whatever.  If your “friend” prefers to go on a social network to “subtweet” and/or “write a status about you with out saying your name” they are clearly not your friend. If they rather get the worlds opinion instead of talking to you direct, then that’s a problem.  If we are friends we should be able to discuss anything upfront and resolve any issues we have immediately.

“Are we really friends” if you are easily able to discuss things with people who you just met before talking to me?  “Are we really friends” if you talk about me behind my back instead of directing your issues with me? “Are we really friends” if you prefer using social media as an outlet then coming to me.

We just need to reevaluate “who” we call friends sometimes and people that are in our friend circle. It’s always good to keep your friendships healthy and if someone is holding on by a thread, see what you can do to fix it or just end it. No matter how long you’ve known someone you still have to ask yourself “are we really friends?” Not everyone is for you and those that aren’t need to be removed from your life to make room for personal growth. Those that hang around only want to bring you down and always make you feel negative. So move on with life and always ask yourself, “are we really friends?”