Category Archives: Friends

Text/Call Me, Don’t Tweet Me!

We all do it, I’ve caught myself ignoring texts and I continue to tweet. We text someone and they sit there and tweet, before ever responding to us. We sit there like “wtf, did I do something wrong?” or “sooo this person is going to tweet before responding to me?” I think its because we have become comfortable with what society has accepted as the normal forms of communication.
I am guilty of this but I am really trying to do better when responding to people. When someone texts us or calls us we are quick to respond to them via twitter instead of contacting them back the way they contacted us.  Honestly twitter (or any social media) is not a legit form of communication, especially if you have the persons phone number. If you don’t have there contact information, that’s understandable. This generation will see that you text/call them and either send you a DM (direct message) or just tweet you, “Sup u called me?”
Does this make us less personal with the people around us? In a sense yes, especially if its people that you are close to. They may feel some type of way. You will tweet before responding to their text/call, that just shows where your priorities are. This generation is stuck on social media communication but don’t realize it is less personal and it is somewhat of a barrier. Think about this before you ignore a text/call and/or decide to tweet instead of text/call someone back. People may feel like you are ignoring them or have a problem with them if you decide to tweet (or do anything social media related) before contacting them. Everyone is free to do there own thing but see how it feels when it is done to you. Being ignored is not fun.

Bite Your Tongue

Sometimes we are considered that “Friend With No Filter”(click to read topic) but sometimes I feel like if you bite your tongue you won’t be able to express what’s really on your mind.  I feel like if we are friends/associates and you know what type of person I am, you should know I will be straightforward about my thoughts. We tend to hide what we are thinking in the fear of hurting someone’s feelings or just losing a friend. If you cant speak openly with people about the truth, then don’t speak about anything at all in my opinion.
This generation is stuck on social media communication and never being direct with there peers. Having a barrier between them and someone else, so they can get that sense of  “they won’t feel as hurt” or  “they wont take it that serious.” Biting your tongue will close a lot more doors then opening them but it will show you who appreciates your honesty. We always thing “oh shit they really said some hurtful shit to me” instead of “dam they really just told me some stuff about myself I didn’t even realize I was doing.” Speak your mind, let your thoughts flow and just be true to yourself. The people you surround yourself with should respect you for not biting your tongue and just being you.

Seasonal Friends

You ever meet those people that just want to be in your life “sometimes” or just temporarily want you around? Lets just call these people “Seasonal Friends.” Just like the seasons they don’t stay very long. In the beginning everything is great but eventually you guys just drift apart. Sometimes it may be a lack of communication or just people moving on and didn’t want to take you with them (vice versa).

We all get that random calltext from someone we haven’t spoken to in a minute that’s like, “we use to chilltalk all the time, what happened?” Sometimes life happens and there was nothing to keep us together. Sometimes though it comes down to the effort people want to put into the friendships. It always comes back to investing time in something for it to grow and it has to be done by both parties never just one. If you want a temporary person in your life then go for it but I feel that it’s a waste of time to have a “seasonal” person in your life. We all deal with seasonal people in our lives till we actually find the people who are there to stay. We tend to forget people always judge us on the people we surround ourselves with.
            If you feel that someone just wants to be around for a season it’s always good to let them go now instead of later.  We are quick to call people we have a good time with “friends” but do they really deserve that title?

Friends With No Filters

Hey, this topic has been in the works for awhile. I apologize for the delay.

Friends with no filters? Friends with no filters are those people in your life that keep it 100% with you no matter what. Instead of being nice, they tell you exactly what the deal. I feel that we all need these type of people in our lives.

Have you ever been out, see a group of people and that one person in the group who looks totally jacked up? You sit and think to yourself “so you have all those people around you, your so called “friends”, and no one has the strength to tell you to get your ass back in the house and change?” The world is twisted like that. That is why we rely on that one friend with no filter to check us sometimes. Sometimes we have the thought in the back of our minds that we don’t want to hurt someones feelings, but its better to hear it from your friend then a complete stranger. It hurts more if you hear it from a stranger, then you look at your friends and say “why didn’t one of you tell me?”

Everyone needs a friend with with no filter, and I bet half of you can already identify a couple of your friends who verbalize everything. Its better to have those people close to you to give you constructive criticism about everything not just what you wear. Trust me, its better to hear criticism from your close friends then a random stranger.