Category Archives: Friends

Consistency . . .

Hey, as the title suggest I will be touching a little bit on consistency. For some of you that get my morning texts or just know me, I really like people who are consistent. One of the best qualities to have is to be consistent in everything you do. Consistent with friendships, relationships, communication, feelings, things you do, etc.

One of the biggest things a lot of people from this current generation lack is consistency. I will let you take a minute to think about it. You know a couple people who aren’t consistent with whatever they say/do and fail to follow through with whatever they say/do. For example, a friend says they are going to help you with a project until it is finished. They help you one day but for the next 3 days they don’t help you because they don’t feel like it. Being consistent is one of those things not everyone is capable of and once you find the people who are, it’s always good to keep them around.

If you are a consistent person dealing with a person who isn’t consistent and/or people who aren’t use to the consistency, it becomes really annoying. Tends to make you fall back from that group of people and want to deal with more consistent people. Sometimes, people tend to undervalue how being consistent makes you different from the crowd. Take a moment to observe who is consistent in your life . . . .

The Option (Part 2)

The 2nd part of this blog is basically going to touch on being the option to somebody.


Sometimes we never realize when we are the option to someone until its to late and they have used us up and thrown us to the side. Sometimes we fail to take all the signs into consideration that we are the option to somebody when we have made them our priority. We haven’t learned enough or experienced enough to know the signs when we are being used and being 2nd best to someone else.

What do you do when you find out you’re the option to somebody? You can either 1. Tell them how you feel about it 2. Consider being the option or 3. Fall back from them entirely. If you know your worth then you know that you shouldn’t be someone options, or side piece. If they want to make you their option number 2 maybe its time for you to get up and reevaluate why your still around them.

“Never make someone your priority when your only there option”

The Option (Part 1)

I know that everyone has experienced of either being an option or having options. This topic will just touch on having options in your life. 

Sometimes when people go through certain things in their lives they always want to have a backup plan. For example, Job number 1 is not providing enough money guess I am gonna go to job number 2 and see if that offers me more. This is called having an option. When it comes to relationships and people in general some people think it’s good to have options, while others hate to be considered an option. This topic basically will touch on having options while part 2 will touch on being an option.

I feel that everyone starts to develop the tendency of having options when something bad happens to them in a relationship or someone used them as an option. Better to be safe than sorry right? Why not have a bunch of options just in case option numbers 1-3 can’t meet up or do what you want them to. At least you got option number 4 right? Some people feel as though having back up plans is great but what happens when options get attached? Or start playing the “Claim Game”? (Refer to Nov 5, 2010 topic if you don’t know what the “Claim Game” is) What is the next step for you?

Most times when options get attached, first step is usually to cut them off especially if you’re not feeling the same way. Saves you from drama and problems, but what if you start getting feelings for an option then what’s the next step? Do you see where it goes and drop your other options? Do you stop playing games and get serious? Only you will know. We actually live in a day an age where people have many options and are not tied down to one person. Everyone is trying to enjoy their lives with as many experiences as possible. Think about it though, if you get attached to an option and they get attached to you, maybe it’s time to give up the games and see what might happen.

The MiddleWOMAN (Written by Munchy)

Show me the HOEfax
I’ve been in many situations where I played the role of the middlewoman. When I go out to parties, clubs, cookouts, and gatherings, my male friends usually ask, “who’s that girl? Tell me what you know about her”. Me: (points to girl#1) she’s taken, (girl#2) she’s not into guys, (girl#3) she has a great personality. I give them the basics before showing them the HOEfax. Yes! I said HOEfax! The HOEfax is a brief description of the girl about whom & what she has done. In other words is she a bitty, jump, slut, etc. After giving them the low down, I let them decide if they want to get to know her or not.

Introduction
If he find’s my friend attractive I always introduce him to her. “Hey Emily, this is my friend Kevin”. After that I instantly step away and pretend to look important (Twiddles thumbs and makes believe that I am texting someone). A middlewoman is not a COCKBLOCKER. Once the conversation begins, it’s not cool to “check-in” on a friend to see how things are. Fade away into the crowd until they return.

Me: So what did think of her?

Kevin: “She was cool, we exchanged numbers”.

The Follow-up
After a week or so it’s okay to ask about the new friendship.

Me: “How are you and Emily hitting it off?”

Kevin: “We’re going out to dinner Saturday.”

There is nothing wrong with asking this question, and even in some cases “Emily” will come around to get the scoop about “Kevin” before agreeing to go out on a date with him. Being the middlewoman is very simple, if you play your role correctly, you will be drama-free. At some point, you began to know what kind of a girl your guy friends are interested in and go straight for the introduction. “Hey Tiffany, I’d like you to meet my friend Kevin”.