Category Archives: Life

The Girl with the THOT Tattoo

This is not a generalization, this in reference to both male and female.
This word THOT has literally come out of nowhere and I really hate it but I use it. I really hate the word but it is so catchy and its get the point across.  People really don’t take offense to this word. If I was to call you a HO you would be so upset but if I called you a THOT you would kind of giggle and say, “ No I am not”.  Lets rewind and go back to what the word THOT means.
THOT = That Hoe Over There
This word makes me so angry sometimes because people really use this in a full sentence. The abbreviations make sense but when you really think about it, you just tell yourself you sound so stupid. For example, “Hey bruh why are you being such a THOT for?”  Now in proper English,” Hey brother why are you such a “that hoe over there” for?” Instead of just using the word hoe we just use the word thot so it won’t be as harmful? It confuses me. When a word becomes mainstream and shared on social media networks it becomes a “real” word that is recycled repeatedly. I actually did an experiment of calling people thot’s and honestly they didn’t get mad. They just looked at me and started laughing. People really don’t consider it a harmless word at all.

Words shouldn’t really harm you but it’s just the words that our generation is creating, no real thought goes into them. I understand it may have come from a rapper or something but still, we don’t have to repeat words that we hear. The thing with humans is that once we hear a catchy word it is stuck in our heads. It’s literally like a tattoo that we can’t get off. 

Life after College (Part 1)


         Life after college and the depression it brings has to be the truest thing ever said. Let’s be real, when you are in school you have no cares in the world. For some people that is, you have your parents/family taking care of you and a bunch of friends to turn up with. Bills paid, somewhere to rest your head, money when you need it, Sallie Mae not stalking you. You’re not thinking too far into the future and just living for the moment. Once senior year hits, you’re finally hit with reality. What is life after college going to be like? Should I go for another degree? What am I really doing with life?
For some people they have been living the “life after college” struggle while being in college. Some people don’t have the benefits of having parents/family members to help them thru anything. They have been working 2 or 3 jobs to pay tuition and keep food on the table. Some people do have parents/family members to help them but the funds aren’t there. So the hustle for a place in society actually begins while in college and for others right after. We hope that our internship provides us with an opportunity for a full time job, that we get something in our field by the time we graduate or that career services helps place us somewhere that can make us money. The reality of it all is that life after college is when you really become an adult and it sucks for most of us.
Some people are able to fall into their careers right out of college, while others face the struggle of trying to get in the door. One of the main reasons you won’t get hired is “that you don’t have enough experience,” but how will I get the experience if you don’t hire me? This is normally an excuse not to hire you instead of a legit reason. It makes sense doesn’t it? The first 6 months out of college, I applied everywhere and kept getting turned down because I was told that I didn’t have enough experience. My resume fits the position perfectly but I don’t have the proper experience to perform the job tasks. The life after college struggle is real and shouldn’t be ignored.
You also realize that your friend circle becomes smaller. You tend to surround yourself with like-minded people that want to grow or just random nobodies. The people that you use to turn up with, probably still turn up and aren’t doing anything. They might have just moved on from you and found a new group of people to hang out with. Life after college forces you to change into the person you will be for the rest of your life. You can always change that but college is literally the stepping stone into your adult life. The struggle can always set you up for something better, but nothing ever comes easy. Everything you do afterwards is another journey in your life.
 “Yesterday was disappointing and today isn’t better. Remember there’s always a tomorrow, so make it something to look forward to and smile”

Growth

I feel if you don’t grow you don’t learn. Growth is all apart life and if you are the same person you were last year then nothing has changed.  People always complain that nothing has changed or nothing new is happening but have you pushed yourself to move forward and change? Are you waiting for someone to push you to change? It’s all about setting your own goals and moving forward.
Personally I feel like I have grown a lot in the past year. I push myself to be better than the Kevin I was yesterday. With friendships, relationships, career and just everything in my life. You can’t remain stagnant and hope things fall into place. I’ve lost friends, made new friends, declined career opportunities and accepted others. They say to be patient and wait for things but you can only wait so long before you just have to continue moving forward and not look back. This concept applies to everything in your life. The thing about moving forward is that you want to move forward. You’re not letting anyone hold you back. When you have people holding you back, you won’t ever get anything accomplished. Year after year you have to grow as a person in every aspect of your life if you want to be great. 
A question I was asked recently was, “Why do you keep your friend circle so small?” My response was, “If your irrelevant and serve no purpose in my life, why should I keep you around?” You have to remind yourself not everyone is about growth and will hinder your growth if they aren’t growing. It applies to your career as well, if you are okay with your current position and feel you have reached your limit for growth then you won’t move. If you reached your limit and feel you need to keep pushing you will look outside your current workplace. Growth is a part of life, it’s up to you if you want to continue growing and moving forward with anything in your life. 
“Life is about moving on, accepting changes and looking forward to what makes you stronger and more complete”

Long Back Shorty

So if you follow me on twitter you know I show love to different sized females. I love them all honestly but this topic will touch on something I discussed with this girl I took out. So we went out and I held the door open for her and followed her into the restaurant. She then said “You only held the door open for me to look at my ass.” I was so appalled by her statement. Why can’t I just hold the door open for you? The nicest thing to do, I would think. I told her next time she can open the door for herself and I will just close it behind me. 


Any way back to the topic, yes as a guy I won’t deny I will look at a girl’s ass. If you make it visible I will grade you. Just like girl’s grade guys on every little thing when they meet them. As a guy we are simple, “Oh how that ass looking? Can she dress? Is she clean? Cool we will figure out the rest moving forward.” Some guys might have different grading methods but those are the basics. The grading process between guys and girls will be another topic so let’s continue. No matter what we will take a glance and act like we didn’t, if you make it visible we will look. Now the shorty with the long back doesn’t have much of a chance in this game but she still get love. No matter if her back touches her ankles. If you trying too hard to have something you really don’t have its bad. Just accept what you have and move on.


I went to an event in the city a couple weeks ago and I saw someone with butt pads. She was throwing it back like it was hers but it did not fit her body. I asked her and she said that guys like girls with a fat ass so she decided to wear them. Do you think about what happens if you get a guy based off the butt pads or nah? Accept your long back and don’t care what people think.

“Love the life you live. Live the life you love”