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Good Guy Vs Bad Guy Vs Good Girl Vs Bad Girl Part#2

PART#2 What is a Good Girl? this part is split in half because of a male and female perspective. Today is the male perspective

Jamel.V.Vanderburg (Male perspective)
As I’m writing this article, there are many thoughts that are going through my mind. I’m also stuck to watching “He’s Just Not That Into You”, a movie that breaks down the psychological aspects of the opposite sex and the relationship pieces that make or break unions. I mention this because despite the many relationships analyzed in this movie, there is no true clarity of good vs. Bad other than a few character flaws in each individual.

As I write this, I had something interesting happen to me tonight. While at an event tonight, as I sit down to have a drink with friends, on the other side of me is my ex-girlfriend, staring me straight in the face. I couldn’t even describe it as a holy hell moment, but a surreal one. Allow me to give you some back story:
Ms B. is your definition of a hood girl, gangster girl, or bad girl, if you will. Up until we began dating last year, I wasn’t too sure bad girls existed other than lying, cheating, manipulative girls who don’t know the definition of a good man or how to be a good woman because for the most part, they’re bipolar, emotionally scarred beings….that’s another story for another time.
Back to the story….I made a vow years ago that I would never date anybody:
A. That didn’t have a college degree
B. That I couldn’t bring home to my parents
C. That smoked, drank, and seemed unstable

Needless to say, I broke this rule. Ironically, Ms. B was the opposite of EVERY girl I had ever been interested in. She was my complete opposite and that led to increased attraction between us. Since we’d known each other since hs and I’d always had this fantasy of making out hard with her, I achieved a lifelong goal on my bucket list and thought something was happening for the good.

However, our strong attraction for each other could not overpower the differences we had in family life, morals, schooling, recreational activities, and just life in general. Even though she wasn’t a bad person, her “bad” vibe wasn’t compatible for my political business lifestyle. Our swags went in two other directions.

I say all of this to say that we often tolerate influence by friends, the media and other factors about what defines a good girl. Girls with great asses, a nice rack, and has lips juicy enough to suck the skin off a penis could be considered traits of a good girl by some. We depend on physical characteristics rather than the emotional piece that is more important than any physical part can tell.

For me, a good girl has to be intelligent. There will be no dummies on my arm at any time. They have to be able to hold a conversation in just about anything. They must carry themselves in a proper manner. They can drink, but not be excessive. I also don’t tolerate smoking EVER. Did it once before and never again will that happen. They have to be able to support me, nurture me, rub my ego every once in a while, but most important, our souls must mesh. This is why I must marry an AKA and nothing else.

I say all of this to say there is no true definition of a good girl except for the definition we give it. This is my personal feeling. I will not and never will give it standing similar to the bible, but I would say it’s pretty accurate.

Right now there are 2 “good girls” I could honestly consider marrying at the drop of a dime. I just wonder what their definition of a good guy is and if I fit the mold.

Got a feeling there will be a pt 2….

What is a good girl????????? to be honest you have to make your own decision on what a good girl is but she is definitely somebody you never want to let go


Tomorrow’s Topic “WHAT IS A BAD GUY?”

Good Guy Vs Bad Guy Vs Good Girl Vs Bad Girl Part#2

PART#2 What is a Good Girl? this part is split in half because of a male and female perspective. Tomorrow will be the male perspective

MUNCHY (Female perspective)
First and for most, a good girl should never ask a man for anything. She should always hold herself down even through the toughest day’s she must keep her head up and say “yeah, I got it”. Yes, I am talking about a “Ms. Independent”. Some men, may be intimidated by one, but if he is, obviously, he cannot handle her.

Secondly, A good girl is a “giver” not a taker; meaning she provides for those she loves and always willing to give a helping hand to those who needs it. She has a warm heart and puts other people’s needs before hers. She knows how to have fun, and make you smile.

Thirdly, a good girl is not a housewife, but must know how to cook and clean. PERIOD! (No further detail)

My next point (I think I speak for all the fellas when I say this), but a good girl is a “lil freak”. Lady in the streets & a freak in the sheets. Who ALWAYS keeps her man on his toes even when she’s away from home. The type to send subliminal text messages to her man every now and then. The girl who doesn’t mind wining and dining her man every now and then. She gotta keep her man right?

Last and final point: A good girl is faithful, trustworthy, forgiving and REAL. Says what’s on her mind and doesn’t bite her tongue. Let’s her man know’s when she’s unhappy, so he doesn’t have to wonder what’s wrong. (Sounds familiar ladies?) Then you wonder why he’s sleeping with someone else— Because he can’t make YOU happy.

Overall, A good girl is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. Someone who know’s you like the back of her hand. The one that will be by your side through thick and thin… Your Brown Sugar 😉

Good Guy Vs Bad Guy Vs Good Girl Vs Bad Girl Part#1

What is a Good Guy?
Everyone always sits around wondering why there never able to find that right person for them. When there with a Good Guy or Good Girl they always want somebody a little bit more “bad ass” so to speak. When there with a Bad Guy or Bad Girl they always want somebody a little nicer that cares more about them. “Oh man why can’t I ever get a good guy?” or ” Why can’t I ever find that good girl?” In these next couple post I will invite some of my friends to give me some of there thoughts on what they think each one of these are.

Kevin Pierre
A good guy I believe is a respectable person who respects women in all aspects of life. If a women is being respectful to you and being upfront with you as a gentlemen you should do the same and not treat her like she is a toy to be played with. A good guy never degrades a female and makes her feel like she is worth a billion dollars. He always makes her feel like she is the queen of the ball no matter what situation. A good guy is a person you can tell all your secrets to and he won’t judge you no matter what. A good guy has standards and will never just settle for any type of chick. Good guy always carries himself well and lives up to the morals that he was taught by his parents. Good guy always goes there extra mile to impress you and always wants to see a smile on your face.

MsHumphreyI think as we grow up, our definition of a good guy changes. As the years go by we go through the shoulda, coulda, wouldas, the heartbreaks, and what we thought we wanted. I’ve reached a point of what I need and what I deserve. So when I think of a good guy, I think, of a man that is spiritual, not religious; there’s a difference. I want a guy who Is financially stable and responsible. Knows how to have a good time that doesn’t always involve, cursing, drinking and definitely not smoking. I want a man who isn’t a mama’s boy, but respects his mother as he would want any man to respect me. And last, but not least, someone who knows how to hold their own and be a man whether it be in public at a dinner with clients, more intimate house party with my friends, or just one on one with me. Know something, talk about something, and don’t just fade to black.

MrSmoovA good guy is a gentlemen that respects women for who they are and what they are destine to become. Being a good guys is developed by learning what it takes to become a man that set forth goals and acts on his beliefs. A good guy will treat all women nothing less than him self, learn to accept that person as they are, keep his pride and provide pride and motivation to any female, and also be the man he was brought up to be.

MsHernandez
A good guy in my opinion is a genuine man. A guy who tips extra at restaurants just because. Someone who you can bring home and puts a smile on your moms face. A good guy is honest about who he is and stands by his word.

Everyone defines a good guy as something different, but when your looking for something maybe you should stop talking bout it and actually go for it . . .

Tomorrows Topic: Good Guy Vs Bad Guy Vs Good Girl Vs Bad Girl Part#2: What is a Good Girl?

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Ugly _ “in between” _Attractive Part#2

How do we define a Ugly person from an “in-between” person and an Attractive person? Part#2 Looks

This will really be a rough topic especially when we talking about peoples looks. This may be a sensitive issue but I will be 100 percent with you.
A UGLY person in “my opinion” would be a person who is physically unattractive. You would be walking with your boys and there just like ” Yo go put your dog back on a leash” ugly. The group of pretty, gorgeous, delicious looking girls and that ONE ugly looking troll that they walk around with to make themselves stand out more. I’m not going to front I literally ask the chicks “Why are you with her?” and there just like “Oh that’s our friend” BULLLLSHIT and you guys let her come out the house looking like that? ONE she forgot to shave that mustache of hers TWO she forgot lotion for them ashy ass knees of hers and THREE that dress don’t even look cute on her. In the words of Ed Lover “C’MON SON!” Then we have the UGLY chick who thinks she is SOOOOO fly just because she is hanging out with hot chicks. OH NO you better PUMP them breaks, reverse your car back into the garage and get that FULL SERVICE FACE LIFT from AAMCO or MIDAS. (REMEMBER THIS GOES FOR EITHER GUYS OR GIRLS) Then the UGLY person who rejects someone just because they feel that they are to cute for them. Really? Your going to just sit there and let that person reject you? HELL TO THE NO, this might be mean but you gotta keep it real here and tell them straight up “Excuse me? Seriously I only asked you cause I felt sorry for you but you ain’t cute at all boo boo so Ima need you to turn your face the other way from now on when speaking to me and that face of yours, please keep it in your purse when you come out the house. Thank You” Do this with a smile =) makes them feel OH so important.

My definition of an attractive person is a person with a nice smile, beautiful eyes, I don’t care bout there size because beauty definitely comes in any shape and size. Being independent and able to hold your own. A person who is well kept(meaning they brushed there teeth, there cloths are iron and fit them, they don’t smell like rotten garbage) very attractive person but if your hands are rough as shit like you don’t put lotion on your hands or never heard of COCO butter don’t hold my hand. If you can hold someones hand knowing that you used some Johnson and Johnson this morning on your hands then that is attractive. I female that doesn’t have to put make up on, who wears sweats and a t-shirt on and still looks like a million dollars is attractive. An attractive person is a person who catches you with there eyes and MAKE SURE that both yours eyes never disconnect from each other.

FINALLY the “in-between” person, I feel as if a lot of people are this because there neither ugly or attractive but they could be either ugly or attractive by the things they do. These people usually don’t care what people say and work on there look however they see fit. One day they may be the most flyest person walking down the street with they little swag walk, then next day there looking like beetlejuice thinking that its halloween in July. The look of this type of person tends to fluctuate because there on there own thing and dress based on there mood. When there feeling fresh they put on fresh stuff or things that make them look fly that boosts there appearance. Walk out the house with the theme song “Everyday I’m Hustlin”, trying to walk all slow so EVERYONE sees them. Then there is the “I don’t give a f*ck” mood, females will wrap there hair, put some sweats on, a t-shirt, chinese slippers and there “i don’t give a f*ck” face on,do there daily business and DARE someone to say something reckless. Guys will put on a tee, some basketball shorts or sweats, some flop flops and keep it moving.

How do we define a Ugly person from an “in-between” person and an Attractive person? You define these people however YOU see fit either by looks or personality. Remember it is your decision and whatever you decide just know that somebody is making the same decision about you.

(Next Blog: Good Guy Vs Bad Guy Vs Good Girl Vs Bad Girl)