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Do You Think About Me? / Reciprocation (Topic Chosen By Munchy)

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I’ve heard this question a lot as of late. To be honest I feel that you would know if someone was thinking about you at all, right? My thing is I only communicate with people who communicate with me or that cross my mind. A couple of my female friends feel that they have to ask the guy in there life, “do you think about me?” If you have to ask that question then there must be a real problem. I feel that actions speak louder then words and if someone thinks about you then most likely they will stay in contact with you or perform actions where you don’t have to ask that question.
If they are your boyfriend/girlfriend I would assume that it is normal to tell them that you think about him/her a lot. If you are just talking/getting to know each other it could be the same deal depending on how far a long you guys are in your relationship. Just know if you are “talking/getting to know” someone that actions will show you if they are really thinking about you.
Think about this though, are actions always reciprocated?
For some of you that don’t know what reciprocation means, it’s defined as a mutual giving and receiving; a mutual exchange; a return in kind or of like value.  Basically are the actions that are performed reciprocated in a manor where you understand what direction the person wants to go with you? Based on communication, consistencyand reciprocated things you should be able to figure out if you have to ask yourself this question. Instead of asking someone “do you think about me?” you should be asking yourself “has this person been consistent with me? Have they communicated with me clearly? Are things reciprocated?” 
Then you will be able to answer your own question.

Are You Using Me?

As the title suggests, “Are you using me?” is a question that needs to be asked sometimes.  We should already be analyzing the situation and figuring out if someone is using us. Sometimes we try to see the good in people when realistically not everyone has good intentions.

You can easily pickup on stuff if people are not consistent with you. Consistency (click on the word to be sent to my blog about it) is one of those things that can’t go unnoticed. If someone has a routine that they do for you, you will pick up on it. If they don’t do it one or two times you will think to yourself, “what’s going on?” When you do one or two good deeds for someone they always want to keep you around because they know you are dependable. Sometimes it gets to the point where they constantly ask you to do stuff for them just because that’s the type of person you are. Have you have ever just asked someone “are you using me?” If you feel like things are not being reciprocated or in the sense being returned in the same way maybe you should.
We all have that gut feeling where we are treating someone good but the things we are doing for him/her are not appreciated. People sometimes fail to appreciate the good things you do for them and if they continue to use you without appreciating your greatness, maybe they are using you. People can still appreciate you and still use you at the same time but you have to be able to have a cut off point. Ask yourself before you do anything else, “Is this person using me?”

The Chase

Hey everyone another topic that I have been talking with a couple of my friends about is “The Chase.” You should already know what I am referring to. You meet someone new, they kind of peek your interest and so you want to know more about them. So the chase begins. . . .

You run thru hoops to get to know them better, get them to notice you more and just do things to impress them. A month or so has passed and you feel like you are still chasing them. You don’t know if they are interested in you but you know you are interested in them. So now what? You’ve told them how you want to move forward but they are unsure about how they want to move forward. Now what? You can tell if someone is interested in you or not, it really isn’t rocket science.

Everything in your life is a lesson, everything is presented to you in different ways so you can learn from it. If someone really wants you, then they won’t let you chase them for that long. They will actually walk beside you and develop something with you. You have to figure out if people are WORTH the chase. Sometimes you have to fight for a spot in someones life but if you don’t see a place being made for you, its just time to move on and live life. “I’m not saying I don’t want you, cause believe me, I do. I’m just not going to chase after you.”

So Much Things To Say

You ever have so much to say but really didn’t know how to say them? (Based the title off of a Lauryn Hill song)You just wish someone would just figure out the thoughts you were thinking and just be like “okay I understand what you’re saying.” People always have regrets of not saying what’s on their minds; instead they let those moments pass them by. Life is filled with mistakes and challenges, we have to be able to just stand firm on our two feet and say what’s on our minds.

People constantly bite there tongue on what they truly want to say to others because they fear the consequences. Why fear the consequences when everything in life is all about taking risks and taking chances? Nothing you do will ever be right, but the wrong decisions could always lead you to making the right ones later. Personally I always use to bite my tongue and never say what was on my mind, which never got me anywhere. Now though, I say how I actually feel. It’s all about saying what you mean and meaning what you say. Once you get something off your chest you feel as though a weight has been lifted off your shoulder. Whether saying something idiotic or speaking your mind, it’s better to get it out then hold it in. You have to experience the random things in life, if you don’t then are you really living? You have so much things to say . . .just say them.

“Half of life is fucking up – the other half is dealing with it.”