Category Archives: Relationship

Dating in 2015


  Dating in 2015 has to be the most difficult thing for our generation which is connected to everything, to do. Actually think about it, we are a connected generation. We have all the information we need in the palm of our hands but fail at the simplest things like consistent communication. Think about this, 20 years ago Amazon.com went live, DVDs was the newest way to watch videos and pagers are the things people used to communicate.
  Dating in 1995, from what I was told, didn’t have all the distractions we have now. Instagram, snapchat, facebook and twitter are tools we use to socialize with people all over the world but we fail to socialize with the people directly in front of us. Yeah I am pretty sure movies and dinner back then was a great experience but now it’s a waste time especially for a connected generation like ours.
Think about it this way
Movie = 1 hour 30 minute + (barely talking)
Dinner = 45 minutes + (kind of talking)
   During a movie you are barely talking, maybe a certain scene comes on and you’re like “oh that’s crazy” but that’s about it. You either snapchat or instagram that you went to the movie and responding to your comments. After the movie you grab dinner (just because getting food before a movie you might catch the itis) and you’re probably sitting there for at least 20 minutes talking about how the movie was. In between that talking about what you want to eat, now you wasted about 25 minutes. You spend maybe 15 minutes getting to know each other between eating your food, updating your status and taking pics of where you are at. Some people don’t talk while eating so you might not get that. Once you’re done you both are out of the door and texting each other. You didn’t really get to experience the person you went out with.
    The issue with dating in 2015 is that we literally have too many options. Too many options in the form of dating sites and social media sites. We are able to see all these people and we don’t know who to choose from. We want everything because it “looks” better than that other option. Not thinking that, what may look better isn’t always better. We don’t take the time to actually experience someone and see if they are the right fit for us.
Dating a person in 2015 I’ve noticed we are a generation that wants something, not sure what we want but when we finally get it we don’t really want it anymore. We just want to post a pic saying “relationship goals” or that moment to feel loved and don’t want it anymore. After a certain age you have to date to actually be with someone the rest of your life and not just for a one night fling. Yes be extremely picky with who you date but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t give people a chance.  My advice would be to date someone that can think outside of the box that is willing to treat you how you are supposed to be treated. This applies to both male and female, sometimes males are used just like females are but date someone that actually wants the same thing as you. After a certain age you should be dating someone that you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with. Not just someone for the moment until you move on to your next but literally your last.


“If you have no intention of marrying the person you’re with now, then you’re wasting your time”

No Take Backs


I feel like when people mess up they always want a do over or to take back what they said like it never happened. People never realize that the damage is already done and nothing else can be said or done to fix it. Like if you tell someone you no longer want to be friends with them and then weeks later you say, “I was just playing though, let’s be friends” just because you miss them. People always tend to regret when they make a mistake or a rash decision. You have to remind yourself that once something is said or done the effects can be extremely damaging. The effects can be good as well, if you are the type of person that doesn’t care about the repercussions.
One of my friends was in a situation where her best friend slandered her behind her back, to a random stranger. Like I get that you need to vent sometimes, but why to someone you don’t know? Then she tried to be buddy buddy with her in person. Come to find out the person she was venting to, was a friend of her so called “best friend” and told her what was up. When she was confronted about it, she acted like it didn’t happen. Once things are said you can’t take them back. My advice is to never say things to people you really don’t know. People are all about gossip and drama. Can’t trust everyone in this world.
Another situation I’ve witnessed is when someone asks you out, girlfriend/boyfriend, don’t you assume they are ready for the responsibilities that come with the situation? I feel like that’s a huge commitment you are getting into and you should know once that happens, anything you say or do will be used in a court of law. I know people who get into relationships with the coolest people just to say,”nah I don’t think I am ready for a relationship but we can still be friends though.” Then a couple weeks later regret it and try to come back. No take backs people. Once things are said the WHOLE situation between you and them changes. You can’t say something now, let it settle in and then take it back because you were confused or it was a mistake. What’s done is done. Just saying sorry will not fix the issue or make it go back to how it use to be. I really dislike people when they think just by saying sorry will fix any situation. In this generation we break up with people in the worst ways and don’t realize we can’t take what we did back. It’s out there, too late to recall a message sent. It’s up to us to enforce this “no take back” policy. If you accept the fact that people have come back after doing something harmful to you, they will continue doing it. Nothing is ever okay and you should make them aware of that.
Words and actions can hurt. It’s what we say or do that determines how we will move forward. You are living your life in pen and can’t erase any of the mistakes you have made. 
“Words are like bullets. Once they are out, you can’t control the damage they do.”

Consistency . . .

Hey, as the title suggest I will be touching a little bit on consistency. For some of you that get my morning texts or just know me, I really like people who are consistent. One of the best qualities to have is to be consistent in everything you do. Consistent with friendships, relationships, communication, feelings, things you do, etc.

One of the biggest things a lot of people from this current generation lack is consistency. I will let you take a minute to think about it. You know a couple people who aren’t consistent with whatever they say/do and fail to follow through with whatever they say/do. For example, a friend says they are going to help you with a project until it is finished. They help you one day but for the next 3 days they don’t help you because they don’t feel like it. Being consistent is one of those things not everyone is capable of and once you find the people who are, it’s always good to keep them around.

If you are a consistent person dealing with a person who isn’t consistent and/or people who aren’t use to the consistency, it becomes really annoying. Tends to make you fall back from that group of people and want to deal with more consistent people. Sometimes, people tend to undervalue how being consistent makes you different from the crowd. Take a moment to observe who is consistent in your life . . . .

The Open Relationship

Hey everyone sorry for the long wait but conflicting thoughts and topics that I’ve been working on just need more information and detail in them. Anyway, this topic I want to talk about is open relationships. Why would anyone want to be in an open relationship confuses me, you should just be single and call it a day but whatever floats your boat.


Being in an open relationship is really like telling the other person that you want to be just friends with benefits. Some people that I know in open relationships don’t even want the title (boyfriend/girlfriend) they just tell other people around them, that they are just friends. So it’s really confusing and I have been trying to comprehend why ANYONE would want to be in an open relationship.
One of the main reasons I came across was that people like to have that one person they could run back to if anything goes wrong. They want companionship but still want to be free to do anything. Open relationship to me is like an in-between spot, saying “I like them but I don’t like them.” So instead of calling each other “fuck buddies” the new modern age term for it is “open relationship”. I would say it does sound better but eventually something happens when it is no longer considered an “Open Relationship”.


Just be single and do what you want, you don’t have to be in an “open relationship” to have that one person you can always run back to.