Sex & Dating (Part 2)

 A couple of questions to ask yourself when dating someone: Can I wait for sex after marriage? Can I wait for sex after we start dating? Do I need to test drive before investing into someone? Is sex a determining factor to being with someone? What if the sex is trash?

A lot comes to mind when building a successful and long lasting relationship but a lot of people I’ve talked to said that additional connection you get from having sex with the other person is crucial to maintaining. It’s not always the defining factor but it will let them know in which direction they want to go with that person. Before investing in someone we like to make sure we are investing in someone that we vibe with. That meets our needs and ultimately makes us happy. Time is something we can never get back and wasted time does not exist in my opinion. Wasted time is better known as learned experience. A time when you learned more about yourself and won’t allow yourself to fall back into that same space.

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Self-Reflection and Healing

Always lost in my thoughts because of how my surroundings seem to turn out. I’ve changed but I’ve changed for the better. I reflect a lot on current moments and try to remember that I am the priority in my life. My health, my wealth, my happiness are the priorities in my life. It is no one else’s life to live but my own. I lose great people in the long run but it is still my life and I have to live it the best way I see fit. Self-reflection and healing are needed to get your mind right, your spirit right and your body right before moving forward with life. Continue reading →

Temporary Lover

Our life journey is never the same especially that journey after a break up with someone. We all try to occupy that time that was given to someone else with other things. It’s like binge watching a Netflix show and when it’s done you are just laying around. Trying to figure out what is next. You click on a bunch of shows, start watching, get bored and then move on to another show. Until you find something new you can binge watch for the next million seasons.

I was in a situation after dating someone for some time where I was just trying to occupy my time with stuff I let go. Hobbies I got rid of, sleep that I missed, books I half started and additional opportunities that I missed. You don’t realize how much time you give to someone until they are no longer in your life. What you do notice is the people trying to occupy that space. I am a person that doesn’t like to give up my free time and space to just anyone. I’ll give you a little bit but not all of it, especially not immediately. It’s always those moments you aren’t looking for someone that someone just wants to come into your life and just be amazing. Like, Continue reading →