Life After College (Part 2)

Back to this life after college mess but lets discuss life after Grad/Law/Med School. Now that you are somewhat out of your undergraduate mentality (Click here for Part 1) and are aware that a bachelor’s degree means nothing, say hello to your new life. This new life consists of darkness, hating everyone, more debt and depression. Some people take a break right after undergrad to get there work experience and then pursue their next endeavor. While others go straight into it right after graduating from undergrad. No matter the route you go the hardest part to continuing your education is the initial application. This is not up for debate at all as some schools require you to have multiple prerequisites before they even accept you. Then even after you apply, they still might not accept you because you aren’t in the top 50 applicants or you don’t meet their idle person. Then you are stalking people to give you recommendations or finding a scholarship program to pay for your tuition, no matter what it is, this first step is the most stressful part.
Now that you have finally been accepted your life is somewhat over. Depending if you go full time or part time, no matter what your life is still over. Your time is mostly occupied with studying and making it through your classes. You have to change the bad study habits that you had in undergrad and make this paper (money). A lot of sacrifices have to be made to continue your education sometimes. You can’t focus on to many things at one time because this will feel like a job. Having to write 15-30 page papers on bullshit that you barely even know. That means most of your time is occupied by research. You know your professor might not read it but you don’t want to test if they won’t. So you spend your weekends (and most of your free time) researching and studying more stuff then you even need to, just so you cover everything. You lose track of days, you don’t remember what sleep is and what exactly are friends? When break finally hits you cherish it with everything in your being. Even though you still have something due when you get back from break. The reality of it all is that this second stage can either make you or break you. Some people give up while others continue right to the finish line.
No matter the route you go it still comes down to if you can find a career. For those in the medical field you have a couple more years of struggle till you will be getting paid like crazy but it will be worth it. For others now you might get to a place where you provide your resume and they say, “ You are over qualified for the position.” Nine times out of ten they just don’t want to pay you what you are worth. They would rather pay 3 people (at a lower rate) to do the job that you could possibly do by yourself. Now it’s all about the hustle and how well you can sell yourself to these hiring managers. Life during college and life after is a struggle, but no matter what you are going through it will always be worth it in the end.
“You have to struggle no matter where you are to get to where you’re going”

Things You Should Work On In 2015

New year new me? New year, same me with upgrades. I am still Kevin just with bigger goals. I hate every year people say “new year, new me”. Hate it with everything in my being. You are still the same person you where last year but just a better version. No matter what your goal should be, you should try and be a better version of the person you where yesterday.  

Growth
Grow as an individual; don’t let anyone try to mold you as a person. We are always growing and changing. You always want to do things that make you a better person for tomorrow. Leave the past in the past and continue to move forward with life. Nothing ever happens moving backwards.
Never Regret
Things are always done and said but it is up to us to not regret our decisions. These decisions define our future. We may burn a couple bridges along the way but that is all apart of life. Life is way to short to regret the decisions you’ve made and the adventures you went on. Just be great and continue doing you.
Say What You Mean
We always seem to bite our tongue in the hope of playing nice with peoples feelings, just stop. Be you and be as real as possible. Sometimes not saying what you mean hurts you more then it hurts the other person. Grow up and just say what you mean whether it be positive or negative. You will feel better once you get it off your chest.
Explore
Explore the world; don’t just stay in your comfort zone. Sometimes all you need is maybe 1 or 2 people willing to explore with you. Just book a flight and enjoy what the world has to offer. I always hear people complain that they don’t have enough time but the real issue is that you are afraid of taking a risk. Just take a weekend gateway and explore. Live the life you where meant to live and get out of your comfort zone.
“Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future”

The Ugly Friend (Part 2)

I touched on this topic almost 4 years ago (Part 1) and it has to deal with personality not beauty. I feel that your outer beauty is one piece of the puzzle that defines who you are. Another piece being your personality that you give off to those people around you. I always have an open ear for my friends and whatever we talk about stays between us. Being that I am a guy I have a lot of female friends and they always love to talk. I feel like I am in a reality show sometimes but I am the one who observes, gives support and then gives advice later. Not saying I don’t have male friends but we tend to not go into detail about a lot of things. When we do we really just cut the person off and move on with life. As a guy, do we have that ugly friend? Yes we do.
One of my peoples (lets call him Chris) was dealing with a chick for a little bit (lets call her Karrueche) and they where kicking it very well. A couple months passed and it seems they where getting serious. He finally introduced her to the guys and come to find out she slept with one Chris’s friends before (lets call him Drake). Instead of her coming forward with it she kept it to herself. Even though they weren’t girlfriend/boyfriend I feel like it’s just the principal of the matter.  Say something now because if you say it later it may be worse. Come to find out she was still messing with Drake even though her and Chris where exclusive. So now she is messing with both dudes. One guy looking for an actual relationship and the other that just wants someone around for fun. Long story short Chris found out the hard way. If this isn’t the ugliest situation in life, I don’t know what is. What makes Drake the ugly friend is that him and Chris are boys. They’ve known each other for a long time. Your moral compass should have said something when you where first introduced. He still wanted to be friends afterwards, which is the crazy thing.
What makes someone an ugly person to me, especially an ugly friend is that they aren’t straightforward with you. They preach about not being stabbed in the back but they are the one holding the knife. An ugly friend is someone who doesn’t bite there tongue but tells you what exactly is going on. In a situation like this I feel that if we are “boys” just tell me now, don’t wait until I am all in my feelings and I find out from a fourth party. This makes no sense to me, as guys sometimes we can go back to being friends but for me that’s only if you tell me from the beginning. We do show our guy friends pictures of potential females, just so we make sure no one knows them. This is a little confirmation that we can continue our advancement on her but still if you saw her picture say something. If you are going to have an ugly friend that acts up like that, then are they really your friend?

“As people grow up they realize it becomes less important to have more friends, and more important to have real ones”

I Like You but I Don’t

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Have you ever been in a situation where you are talking to someone or making new friends and you like them but you don’t? Everything they are doing is great but something inside you really doesn’t like them. Not saying you don’t like them but saying that you like them. It’s confusing honestly. I was in a situation with this chick a couple months ago. I genuinely liked her but I felt weird about it. When I feel weird about anything or think something is up I stop whatever I am doing and analyze the situation. Reviewing a situation helps you gather more information and helps you to make an informed decision. After further review of the play I told her “I like you but I don’t so we should just be associates.” The bad thing is I couldn’t even see myself being her friend; I really felt it was pointless. I said, “We should be associates.” Why entertain friendship with someone you are not sure about?
I like all my friends, that’s why I consider them my friends. When you have an in between feeling about someone then you should just let them go. It’s either you give 100% or you give nothing at all, no in between.  Was it mean what I said? Maybe but at least I wasn’t wasting her time. All we do in this day and age is waste peoples time that we can’t give back. I apologized for wasting her time but when I am asking myself to many questions about a person then it can’t work out on any level. This applies to a lot of things though. You can like something but you really don’t. Maybe you like the company or like how something makes you feel but do you really like it?
Maybe it’s because I over think situations that they turn out the way they do but its better to be safe then sorry. You can always tell someone you like them but will anything ever come out of it? It’s always good to get your feelings out and let them be known but your feelings will never give you a clear definition of what they mean. I like you but I don’t. I like you as a person but I don’t like the random tendencies you have. I like you and your randomness but I don’t like your personality. Sometimes you just have to be you and go with how you feel. You are the only one that knows what you like and don’t like.
“Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you”