The EX Factor

When did the EX become such a factor to some people? I feel as though if they are your EX then they are an EXample of what you don’t want the next person to be. What made them your EX? Is it that they had the qualities that you where looking for in the beginning but didn’t really stay consistent with? OR did they just fuck you over? You know how people are amazing in the first 9-12 weeks of getting to know them, they do all the right things to please you and make you happy. Then after awhile that diminishes, once they know they got you in their back pocket. You will deal with the most random bullshit that they throw at you and still stick around just because they “make you happy” or you “don’t know what to do without them.” The real reason you don’t want to leave is because you feel comfortable and they got you to that level. Once you feel comfortable you never want to leave someone no matter how bad they hurt you. You will accept anything they throw at you because you think that someone else won’t want you at all. Trust me you are 100% wrong. Know your worth before you get into anything with anybody. Do not allow them to destroy your self-esteem . . . it is called SELF-esteem for a reason. Move on with life, do you and find something better.

When did the EX become such a factor for some people?

Random situation that a couple of my friends have been through:
Have you ever been in that situation where someone you’re talking too just abruptly just leaves the “getting to know” relationship you guys had and just disappears without a trace? Come to find out they went back to their EX who they constantly BASH and had a falling out with, but there OFFICIALLY back together? The crazy thing about this is that you wasted a couple months getting to know them and spent hours with them. Then when they just up and disappear they don’t do the grown up thing, which is talk to you about it or give you an explanation. In my mind this is wrong, especially if you don’t even talk to the person and just leave. Sometimes you can’t understand why people do things; you just have to understand that life has its lessons. If you don’t completely END something with an EX then sometimes moving on is hard. People love that comfortable feeling with their EX’s that why they still consider there EX a factor in their lives.

“You have to let go of your EX to receive your next and that will be your best. You can’t embrace the future while clinging to the past.”

The Smile

What is the first thing you notice whenever you approach someone? Me personally I will notice there smile. Not everyone has a genuine smile and from that you can learn a lot about someone. I would have to say I am the BIGGEST sucker for a pretty girl with a gorgeous smile. Why? Just because I feel that is the most beautiful feature you can have besides your eyes. Your smile defines what kind of person you are. A smile tells a million stories and the one it wants to tell you can vary on the type of person smiling at you.

Smiles have their own little story depending on the person. They say that “No smile is as beautiful as the one that struggles through the tears.” As humans we tend to go through a lot of issues and if we are able to come out of those situations happy and with a smile, then we have overcome extreme hardship. To be able to put on a smile after something depressing or heartbreaking shows the strength behind your smile. That’s why each smile has its own story to tell.

If you are like me sometimes we just smile at the little things just because. I will walk somewhere and think of something just randomly stupid and start smiling. How about that text you get from that special someone and you start smiling at your phone? People then assume you’re crazy because you’re smiling at your phone. You see your crush and you give them the koolaid smile and then try to play it off like you weren’t looking. We all have our moments, and our smiles tell our stories.

“Always remember to be happy because you never know who’s falling in love with your smile.”

So Much Things To Say

You ever have so much to say but really didn’t know how to say them? (Based the title off of a Lauryn Hill song)You just wish someone would just figure out the thoughts you were thinking and just be like “okay I understand what you’re saying.” People always have regrets of not saying what’s on their minds; instead they let those moments pass them by. Life is filled with mistakes and challenges, we have to be able to just stand firm on our two feet and say what’s on our minds.

People constantly bite there tongue on what they truly want to say to others because they fear the consequences. Why fear the consequences when everything in life is all about taking risks and taking chances? Nothing you do will ever be right, but the wrong decisions could always lead you to making the right ones later. Personally I always use to bite my tongue and never say what was on my mind, which never got me anywhere. Now though, I say how I actually feel. It’s all about saying what you mean and meaning what you say. Once you get something off your chest you feel as though a weight has been lifted off your shoulder. Whether saying something idiotic or speaking your mind, it’s better to get it out then hold it in. You have to experience the random things in life, if you don’t then are you really living? You have so much things to say . . .just say them.

“Half of life is fucking up – the other half is dealing with it.”

B.E.A.U.T.I.F.U.L.

Lately I’ve been confused on what is considered beautiful to a lot of people and why do people kill themselves to look better to impress others.

According to dictionary.com, beautiful is defined “having beauty; having qualities that give great pleasure or satisfaction to see, hear, think about, etc; delighting the sense or mind.”

If “having qualities that give great pleasure or satisfaction to see, hear, think about, etc” isn’t a straight forward answer I don’t know what is. To me this means you have to consider many factors instead of just one. They say beauty is in the eye of beholder but is it really? You can only look at something for so long before it is no longer beautiful and if you are basing beauty off of looks then there are a million things wrong with that. It may be 1 factor but should not be the only factor you consider. What brings out a person’s true beauty is really what’s in thier heart and how they come off. Like Kanye West said “The prettiest people do the ugliest things.”

When you start to let others determine if YOU ARE beautiful then that’s a big problem. One example of this is when one person says something about someone else. A lot of people are becoming more self-concise of their appearance and looking for people’s approval. The only approval you need is from yourself to know that you are a very beautiful person. Love yourself; stop caring what others think about you.

Beauty is how you feel inside and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical. ~ Sophia Loren