Parents,We Gotta Love Them

It’s been a GOOOOOOD minute since I wrote something but I have been preoccupied with school and work, you know how that is. Today’s topic is about “PARENTS” point, blank, period. We gotta love them no matter what problems we are going through they are always there to support you. Through your stupidity, car accidents, a breakup, rough time with friends, school, just whatever the case maybe your parents are always there.

Within the Haitian culture some people don’t understand that our parents are very clingy to us, as we are growing up. They want us to be either doctors, nurses, lawyers, an athlete or something with computers. That is just FACT, if you are not in those fields you will not be successful. Every step of your growth your parents are there, they try to pick and choose your friends for you. They don’t want bad influences that will change the positive directions that you are going in. They always try to make sure you are eating healthy and always know when you are losing weight, I mean ALWAYS. My sister is turning out like my mom and it’s horrible to see, because last year her and my mom would tell me that all the time. “Kevin you look skinnier then usual did you eat?” or “Kevin your face is looking real thin are you okay?” You just are, “like leave me alone” but your parents just know you. When I use to bring my friends over my mom would give them all food and they would tell me all the time “Yo I love this Haitian cooking, ask your mom if she can make lunch for me for work.” At my job now I use to buy lunch from the work cafeteria, but not anymore my mom makes me food for work. That’s a Haitian parent for you; it’s not that I can’t get my own food it’s just that you have to understand it’s our culture. Parents care for their kids and always want to be there for them. I would say Haitian and African parents are the same very strict and very clingy but that just means they love you so be happy to have them. Be thankful that you have both your parents and that they are there supporting you. Haitian parents will gladly embarrass you in public and not care who is around. They will blow up your phone a million times after 11pm just because they don’t know your whereabouts and think you are dead. Just know if you are the male you are safe but the female not so much. There was a time that my car died on me on the parkway at 1 in the morning, I called 5 of my friends who lived close and they were all “busy”. So I called my dad and of course he was there at the drop of a dime. You gotta love your parents no matter what because they always love you back.

You ever just sit there and think, “How many different bills my parents pay?” No you haven’t because sometimes they are paying everything for you. You are sitting there, paying your cell phone bill living the high life, while your parents pay for everything else. Your car insurance, car payments, mortgage, cable, internet, food, utilities and whatever else they are paying for. Have you ever just said thank you or helped or just like “you guys are the greatest, thanks for the support.” You can’t take your parents for granted and the more you take them for granted the less time for you to say thank you and really mean it. Time never stops and it continues to move, your parents are there for you to learn from so take those 2 seconds whenever you are with them to give them something in return and try to benefit from there teachings.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Worst Ways to Break-Up With Someone

So I was talking with my co-worker and we were sitting here talking about how people should just break up with each other if they are not interested. Be 100 percent forward so there is less collateral damage. In some cases we have witnessed break-ups and they have been UGLY especially done in the wrong venue or just in the wrong way.

5. In a place where there is a lot of people
In a public place you think you are safe and nothing out of the ordinary will happen. Sometimes people just like to create a scene so everyone feels bad for them. I have witnessed one of these and I thought it was hilarious to be honest. The chick had a mental break down and the dude all he could do was stand there and look stupid. One of his friends probably told him it would be safe doing that but that definitely was not safe for him in this case. You don’t know what goes through people’s mind when they just enjoyed sometime with you and you tell them it’s over.

4. During the Middle of a Date
This would kind of go into the same category as public but at the same time not. You guys are having a wonderful dinner, just came from the movies and are having a beautiful walk on the beach when those words come out of his/her mouth. “I think we should just be friends” . . . . . Your whole body freezes and you are just like why? We just had the best night ever and after this wonderful night you are telling me you want to be friends. If they spent money on you the whole night and thought it was great, then you end up breaking up with them in the middle of the date how you think they are going to feel? You might have to walk home, just think about it before you do it.

3. Through Another Person
Sometimes we think this is good, when we did this when we were younger. NOW though you can’t do this because your friends will feel some type of way and will get the full brunt of the fury of the other person. Just think about the repercussions for your friends and for yourself if your friend gets upset over this.

2. Facebook Relationship Status/Wall Post
This I feel is soooooooo bad and horrible because for someone to find out this way is very hurtful. EVERYONE else in the FB world finds out before you and you’re still sitting there thinking you still go with that person when you actually don’t. You significant other changes their status and you’re like “OMG WTF!?” and there like oh yeah we don’t go out anymore. You are just like when did we talk about this. The way technology is moving we think it’s so easy to change relationship statuses at the drop of a dime. This is very tacky and only a bitch would do this, so for those who have broken up with people through facebook guess what you are. . . .

1. Text Messages
This right here has to be the lowest blow you can give to someone, this right here really means you didn’t care at all about their feelings or what you guys have been through. Okay I know sometimes (all the time) we have our phones with us and we are texting away no matter how far some people are instead of calling them we have full length conversations with them through text messages instead of just calling them. Just texting someone “ I think this is over we can still be friends though” is a horrible message to send someone.

Personally it’s funny as hell to see how people get broken up with especially if it’s in some weird ass way instead of directly. Just be careful how you do it because people will stalk you if you didn’t end it with them correctly.

Interracial Relationships . . . What’s the big deal?

As the summer disappears and another day comes upon us, I have another story to share with my readers on this wonderful day. So I was in a heated discussion with this female about dating outside my race. She said I was belittling my race and that I did not want to keep the purity of our African people. She also said that there are hundreds upon hundreds of strong single African American females looking for African American males to date but there all taken by another race. Bringing up the race thing in my opinion when it comes to a relationship I think its ignorance, you have not grown as a person and experienced life. You are stuck in a 2d world where everything is the same as it was 2000 years ago.

WELLLLLL . . . I am sorry you feel that way but I personally don’t think it matters who I am in a relationship with or their race. This should not even be a factor in determining who you’re in a relationship with. Do you walk around choosing your friends by race? “Okay hey you Chinese guy your on my team, you to Spanish guy I want you on my team, not you Multiracial guy you look weird.” Seriously that’s not how things should work out at all. We are not living in the times of a racial divide; we are living in the times of change. Of course racial boundaries will NEVER be completely gone but at least we are trying.

Again, “What’s the big deal with Interracial Relationships?” Ask yourself that at least 5 times and if you can make up a list of at least 10-15 things then don’t force your views on other people. Don’t complain about “OH why you with that when you can be with your own race,” it’s not about being with your own race it’s about how you feel about the person, how interesting they are to you, and YOUR happiness, no one else’s. I have dated a Spanish and Caucasian female and it’s a new experience that everyone should explore and that’s dating outside your race because the perfect person is the one you least expect.

Food for thought, in this day and age not everyone is 100% what they say they are. For example, Lewis says he is African American but his grandmother is Caucasian, is he still just considered African American or both? Peter is Spanish but his great grandfather is Asian, what is he then considered? There are some of us who are mixed and may not know it, because during the times of slavery, slave masters use to rape there slaves. So in a sense we ALL of us maybe a race we don’t know about, so never judge a book by its cover. Judging a relationship based on race is definitely a “NO BUENO.”

So once again, please tell me “What’s the big deal with Interracial Relationships?” because I personally just see it as 2 people interested in each other, being happy.

The MiddleWOMAN (Written by Munchy)

Show me the HOEfax
I’ve been in many situations where I played the role of the middlewoman. When I go out to parties, clubs, cookouts, and gatherings, my male friends usually ask, “who’s that girl? Tell me what you know about her”. Me: (points to girl#1) she’s taken, (girl#2) she’s not into guys, (girl#3) she has a great personality. I give them the basics before showing them the HOEfax. Yes! I said HOEfax! The HOEfax is a brief description of the girl about whom & what she has done. In other words is she a bitty, jump, slut, etc. After giving them the low down, I let them decide if they want to get to know her or not.

Introduction
If he find’s my friend attractive I always introduce him to her. “Hey Emily, this is my friend Kevin”. After that I instantly step away and pretend to look important (Twiddles thumbs and makes believe that I am texting someone). A middlewoman is not a COCKBLOCKER. Once the conversation begins, it’s not cool to “check-in” on a friend to see how things are. Fade away into the crowd until they return.

Me: So what did think of her?

Kevin: “She was cool, we exchanged numbers”.

The Follow-up
After a week or so it’s okay to ask about the new friendship.

Me: “How are you and Emily hitting it off?”

Kevin: “We’re going out to dinner Saturday.”

There is nothing wrong with asking this question, and even in some cases “Emily” will come around to get the scoop about “Kevin” before agreeing to go out on a date with him. Being the middlewoman is very simple, if you play your role correctly, you will be drama-free. At some point, you began to know what kind of a girl your guy friends are interested in and go straight for the introduction. “Hey Tiffany, I’d like you to meet my friend Kevin”.