Category Archives: New Year New Me

Don’t Make a New Years Resolution


Let’s be serious the amount of people that make a New Years resolution and don’t follow them has to be in the thousands. Why are you wasting your time with one? You just know you won’t follow it. Every year people tend to make some type of decision(s) that they want to change or do for the following year and don’t follow it. These are disguised as New Years Resolutions. Once you throw something into this category I just feel like you won’t do it. It is literally a crutch that hinders you from growth especially if you are not a motivated person.
Let’s say you are a motivated person you more then likely won’t create a New Years resolution you will just create a set of goals for yourself to achieve. For example in 2016 I want to be able to cook a 5 star meal for the people I know. This is just a statement to yourself, with no set time frame. Just in 2016 you want to be able to cook a 5 star meal. Unexpected things could happen and make you completely forget about this resolution, even if you put it on a sticky note on your wall. In the next 3 months I want to be able to cook a 5 star meal for the people I know. Right here you’re sounding like a champ, you set a goal for yourself to complete this in the next 3 months. Setting a goal for yourself it will always ring in your head like, “Hey buddy, didn’t you want to learn how to cook or nah?” “You really suck right now if you don’t get these cooking skills up”,” So you really going to ignore me right now?” It will just keep reminding you that you set a goal for yourself and you haven’t started to work on it. New Years resolutions people create all the time and just throw them in the trash or recycle it for the next time you have to make a New Years resolution.  The moment you make a New Years resolution you already lost the race.
Not saying that people don’t stick to them but something has to drive you to want to stick to it. The biggest New Years resolution I hear from most people is that they are going to the gym and trying to be healthy this year. Don’t lie to yourself, you are only hurting you and not me. People start in the gym maybe a good 2-3 weeks and then just burn out. They see a little result and say, “Yeah I am good for the year.” The moment the summer come and you see one of your friends reaching a “goal” they set for themselves instead of a New Years resolution then you are going to want to hit the gym more often. You don’t realize that progress doesn’t happen overnight and you can’t get that body you wanted immediately. So you wait until New Years Eve and make another resolution to yourself that you won’t keep.
Moral of the story, just set goals for yourself. New Years resolutions aren’t realistic achievements and are more like wishes. “I wish I could do this” or “I wish I could do that.” You should actually set realistic goals for yourself. Give yourself a deadline to reach your goal and push yourself to meet them. You will have to stay consistent in everything you do to show your growth but you will make it in no time. You are the only thing holding you back from being great.

“You can make a wish, or you can make it happen”

Things You Should Work On In 2015

New year new me? New year, same me with upgrades. I am still Kevin just with bigger goals. I hate every year people say “new year, new me”. Hate it with everything in my being. You are still the same person you where last year but just a better version. No matter what your goal should be, you should try and be a better version of the person you where yesterday.  

Growth
Grow as an individual; don’t let anyone try to mold you as a person. We are always growing and changing. You always want to do things that make you a better person for tomorrow. Leave the past in the past and continue to move forward with life. Nothing ever happens moving backwards.
Never Regret
Things are always done and said but it is up to us to not regret our decisions. These decisions define our future. We may burn a couple bridges along the way but that is all apart of life. Life is way to short to regret the decisions you’ve made and the adventures you went on. Just be great and continue doing you.
Say What You Mean
We always seem to bite our tongue in the hope of playing nice with peoples feelings, just stop. Be you and be as real as possible. Sometimes not saying what you mean hurts you more then it hurts the other person. Grow up and just say what you mean whether it be positive or negative. You will feel better once you get it off your chest.
Explore
Explore the world; don’t just stay in your comfort zone. Sometimes all you need is maybe 1 or 2 people willing to explore with you. Just book a flight and enjoy what the world has to offer. I always hear people complain that they don’t have enough time but the real issue is that you are afraid of taking a risk. Just take a weekend gateway and explore. Live the life you where meant to live and get out of your comfort zone.
“Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future”

6 Things You Should Work On In 2014

–>  Another year has gone by, another day to be thankful for. As you review your 2013, have you accomplished the goals you set for yourself earlier in the year? Did you start and then just said fuck it? Well, it’s never to late to evaluate your life and make new goals. Stop saying “new year, new me” you’re still the same person just with new goals. Here is the list of things that I think everyone should work on for the year 2014.

Stop Being Bitter
Just because things don’t go your way and they are going well for someone else, don’t be bitter. I’ve noticed that when someone is happy, people seem to question their happiness. I’ve caught myself doing it and I am just like, “I shouldn’t feel this way.” Don’t be that bitter friend or let things make you bitter. Just accept life and know that things will happen in time.
Put Your Pride To The Side
Pride can destroy a lot of things in your life. It can destroy friendships and relationships. Be the bigger person and put your pride to the side. Being stubborn never gets you anywhere. Take the time to just suck it up and take the first step, if you have to. Sometimes the first step is the best step.
Move Forward
Continue to move forward no matter what is trying to hold you back. We seem to fall when something brings us down or when people say we can’t do something. As long as you think positive, you can move forward and become great. Just because you fall once doesn’t mean you can’t get up and do bigger things.
Take A Risk
People are always afraid to take a risk but it’s apart of life. The most unexpected things come to those who take a risk. Even if it turns out bad, at least you gained experience from it. It might be a waste of time but at least you won’t look back and say, “oh I should have tried that . . .” You never want to have that thought in the back of your mind.
Reconnect or Just Let Go
We always say we want to reconnect with people but when the time comes we are always busy. Sometimes we just forget. There should be a time limit on when you can reconnect with people. If you have to remind yourself a million times that you need to reconnect with people, just let it go. If you really wanted to do it, you would have done it already. No excuses.
Just Be Happy and Love Yourself
Just enjoy life, be happy and love yourself. Sometimes we forget to just be happy and love ourselves. If you aren’t happy, then what’s the point of living? If you can’t love yourself and love all your flaws, how can you love? Love you for you and just be great. Be the best version of you possible. Love the person you are becoming and just be happy.
“Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else.” – Les Brown

Things You Should Work On For 2013

It is now 2013 and all I’ve been hearing is “new year new me”. Ummm I am pretty sure you said that last year and the year before so please take a seat. I feel like if your going to say that make sure you prove that with actions. Words really don’t mean anything unless you can prove that you are going to change. The Things I feel everyone should work on for 2013 are evaluating your friend circles, trying to stay consistent, being more verbal, building on trust/loyalty and believing actions over words.

Evaluate Your Friend Circle
Some things I think everyone should work on for this year is evaluating their “friend” circle and eliminating those people who don’t bring value to there lives. Its cool to be surrounded by people but if they are not doing anything with there lives besides popping mollies and sweating, well then reevaluate your friendships. If you need to cut people off, cut them off immediately. You can’t carry around dead weight forever.

Stay Consistent
Consistency should be another thing we work on. (Consistency in our work, with our friends, with our families and in every day life) When you are not consistent with things, they tend to fall apart quickly. Also try and be consistent with the people around you. We all hate having people who flip flop on things they say so try and prove to them why consistency works.

Be More Verbal
Verbal in the sense of communication, people who say nothing tend to end up with nothing. The best thing you can do is voice your opinion and be direct with people. Never try to sugar coat shit, just say what’s on your mind. Mean what you say and say what you mean.

Build on Trust and Loyalty
In this day and age people really lack trust and loyalty to each other. It’s all about throwing someone under the bus. We should work on building on the trust and loyalty we have with the people that are close to us before searching for more people to include in our circles. People can say that they are loyal or you can trust them but words can only go so far. Build on what you already have before searching for anything new.

Believe Actions Over Words
Last thing is that people should not give words so much value unless they are backed up by actions. We tend to believe words just because of the person who is saying them but all in all if their actions don’t align with there words what’s the point? Before you believe 100% of somebodies words make sure they have proven themselves to you with their actions. Actions should always tell you if someones words carry any weight to them.
“Nothing is predestined. The obstacles of your past can become the gateways that lead to new beginnings“-Ralph Blum