Education. . .Career. . .Relationship

I have had a lot of conversations with different people on their views on these 3 topics. I brought up the idea you can only focus on 2 of these at a time and can’t have all 3. Not saying you can’t have all 3 but 2 of them will have your primary focus and the 3rd will kind of just be in the back of your mind. More so if it happens, you will go with the flow of it.

No matter what one of these will be on hold or you will not pay that much attention to. The reasoning for that is either A) you already have it established and don’t need to work on it and/or B) you are just winging it and whatever falls into your plate you will deal with. The 2 focuses that most people start off with are education and career, then they end off with career and relationship. Which makes sense but others always find their own paths in life. 
I know people who have maintained these 3 items but it was difficult. When it comes to each one of them the main thing that applies is time. Time to study, do homework, graduate. Time to search for a job, edit your resume, interview. Time to show someone you appreciate them, dinner dates, see them. Each one of them comes down to the time that you have. If you have the time you can make it for all of these things. It is your choice to determine what road you want to take and whatever makes you feel comfortable. 
Review the things in your life and ask yourself “Have I ever successfully had all 3 items at one time?”
“It’s your road and yours alone, others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.”

Positive VS Negative

–> Sorry it’s been so long since my last topic but life has a way of occupying your time. So lets talk a bit about positive versus negative. We tend to look at our negatives more then we look at our positives. No matter how little the negative is we make it bigger then the positive and we allow that to drag down our mood/thoughts. I seem to notice that with a lot of people, you can try and tell them to keep positive but they would rather not. They let the negative issue get to them so much that it becomes the only thing that consumes their thoughts.

As individuals, we all go through issues in life that discourage us from doing a lot of things. We can’t let the negatives ever out way our positives. Everything negative that happens to us is always setting us up for something better in life. Sometimes people don’t think about it that way though. You can’t take everything negatively but as a stepping-stone to something better. For example, a couple of my friends have had a lot of trouble finding jobs in their particular fields. Nothing comes easy but they did get really discouraged. They started thinking if they really should have went to school for there particular degree. After a couple, of just standard jobs and pushing forward, they finally landed in their careers.
That sense of achievement and staying positive can take you a long way. Negativity will always be around but you can’t let it consume you. Don’t ever let it consume your decisions. Remain positive and things will fall into place the way you want them to.

“You don’t always need a plan. Sometimes you just need to breathe, trust, let go, remain positive and let things happen. Greatness takes time.”

6 Things You Should Work On In 2014

–>  Another year has gone by, another day to be thankful for. As you review your 2013, have you accomplished the goals you set for yourself earlier in the year? Did you start and then just said fuck it? Well, it’s never to late to evaluate your life and make new goals. Stop saying “new year, new me” you’re still the same person just with new goals. Here is the list of things that I think everyone should work on for the year 2014.

Stop Being Bitter
Just because things don’t go your way and they are going well for someone else, don’t be bitter. I’ve noticed that when someone is happy, people seem to question their happiness. I’ve caught myself doing it and I am just like, “I shouldn’t feel this way.” Don’t be that bitter friend or let things make you bitter. Just accept life and know that things will happen in time.
Put Your Pride To The Side
Pride can destroy a lot of things in your life. It can destroy friendships and relationships. Be the bigger person and put your pride to the side. Being stubborn never gets you anywhere. Take the time to just suck it up and take the first step, if you have to. Sometimes the first step is the best step.
Move Forward
Continue to move forward no matter what is trying to hold you back. We seem to fall when something brings us down or when people say we can’t do something. As long as you think positive, you can move forward and become great. Just because you fall once doesn’t mean you can’t get up and do bigger things.
Take A Risk
People are always afraid to take a risk but it’s apart of life. The most unexpected things come to those who take a risk. Even if it turns out bad, at least you gained experience from it. It might be a waste of time but at least you won’t look back and say, “oh I should have tried that . . .” You never want to have that thought in the back of your mind.
Reconnect or Just Let Go
We always say we want to reconnect with people but when the time comes we are always busy. Sometimes we just forget. There should be a time limit on when you can reconnect with people. If you have to remind yourself a million times that you need to reconnect with people, just let it go. If you really wanted to do it, you would have done it already. No excuses.
Just Be Happy and Love Yourself
Just enjoy life, be happy and love yourself. Sometimes we forget to just be happy and love ourselves. If you aren’t happy, then what’s the point of living? If you can’t love yourself and love all your flaws, how can you love? Love you for you and just be great. Be the best version of you possible. Love the person you are becoming and just be happy.
“Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else.” – Les Brown

Draking and Driving

–>

We have all been a victim of “Draking and Driving.” You can say you haven’t but you definitely have. Drake is a great artist but some of his songs will have you sitting in your feelings all crazy. You will just be listening to his album, bumpin it, then a song come on that will have you thinking about life. Life and that random person that gave you a long hug in 9thgrade. That person that you had a random conversation with at a random house party, who said they would call you and never called. Then he got songs where you save your tears in a jar so you can show someone how much they hurt you. Listening to 1 drake song is all good because sometimes it won’t get you there but listening to a whole album is another story.
            This is not up for debate because I have witnessed people who have listened to a whole Drake album and want to visit there past. When they say, “I am feeling like Drake,” yeah that’s a new emotion like love or hate. I am Draking right now. Honestly sit there and listen to a Drake album and tell me if you don’t feel weird.
I finally decided to listen to Drake’s new album on my way to the Knick’s game the other day. Let me tell you how I was going thru my phone all crazy trying to hit up a couple chicks from my past.  Drake song with Jhene Aiko (From Time) came on and I was like “dam this shit right here though.” Thank god I delete numbers and move on. I was definitely Draking and driving the other day. Don’t get me wrong, he has some joints on there that pop but other songs that just make you go deep into your memories. I remember a girl from high school that wanted to share her pizza with me. I would have married her if I were listening to Drake. Just cause she shared some pizza with me. Don’t become a victim of Draking and driving. When listening to a Drake album, throw some 2 Chainz, J.Cole, Wale, Jay-Z in the mix. You can’t listen to a Drake album straight thru. Also don’t Drake and Drive, it is very dangerous.