Can We Just Be Friends?

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I feel that I always have to ask people this sometimes because they always assume otherwise. This would be in reference to females of course. This would work vice versa because I know some of my female friends who have more male friends then female friends. So one of my coworkers told me that I don’t give people a chance. I am pretty sure I give people at least once chance. Even though if I know your going to waste my time or if I am not interested in having you in my circle I tell you. I feel its better to be forward with people no matter how you come off. Yes for a while I was telling people “nah I am good, you would be a waste of my time,” but it’s not like I wasn’t right. So to prove her wrong I have been giving everyone a chance. Well technically not everyone a chance because not everyone deserves a chance.
Crazy thing is people assume that you like them right out the gate. How about I get to know you first. How can you like someone you barely know? It baffles me sometimes but people do it. After getting to know someone then I figure you would build some type of feelings for them. If you think they are cool but no feelings really emerge can we just be friends? This is usually a yes and no type of thing. If you don’t establish what you want in the beginning people will immediately assume you like them and want to be with them. That’s not the case sometimes. Can we just be friends and build something? Lets lay that foundation so “maybe” something can move further, if it doesn’t we are still well established friends. Assumptions normally lead to disappointments, so never assume anything.
Just to prove my coworker wrong though I have been giving people a chance and I’ve noticed that people think I like them. Yeah not really, I am just giving you a chance to get to know you. Maybe we could be really good friends. Not that I need more friends but maybe the friendship will lead to something else. Never assume or expect anything from people, go with the flow of the world and just be happy.

Instagram Stalker

                I previously did a topic about the Facebook Stalker but now that we have so many other popular social media sites, let’s talk about the Instagram Stalker. Let’s be clear though, instagram stalking and someone who just likes your pictures are different. Instagram is meant for people to like and/or comment you pictures. We have to identify when someone just likes our pictures and when someone is doing way too much.
                People have the notion of assuming if someone likes more than 3 pictures they are 1) either thirsting 2) they want the D or 3) stalking. You have to realize that Instagram is a place you post pictures, for people to “LIKE” duh. The thing to look out for though, are those people who like all your pictures from 65 weeks ago and then proceed to have a conversation with you on the 1stpicture you ever posted on instagram. WE SEE YOU!! Instagram is a place to be stalked without you even knowing you are being stalked, honestly.  You have 100+ pictures on your IG account and they like EVERYONE OF THEM, just because.  Once again some of us have been in those situations where someone likes all our pics, we shout them out and now they think they have claim to us. No . . .NO . . .and DOUBLE NOOO.  Assumptions will get you nowhere, but be aware STALKERS come off very nonchalant or casual until you let them in. They will comment on pictures they have already commented on, unlike then like pictures again, and stalk any pictures you have been tagged in. Instagram is just another way for stalkers to be great.
            First you have to stop shouting out people who like your pictures, this is a window for stalkers to like all your pictures and start a conversation from your first picture. Second thing is to know when you are doing WAYYYY too much on instagram. It’s cool to post your new socks but when you’re posting your new socks and are half naked you’re honestly just asking to be stalked. “Hey you see a pic of my new socks on IG?” . . .Looks on IG and sees you with barely any clothes on, then see the socks in the corner of the room. It’s cool, I will let you be great but at least don’t set yourself up to be stalked. There is always a limit to what can and can’t be posted on IG.

Social Media Diary

When it comes to venting our frustrations, telling someone how you feel about them or just speaking your mind about a bad situation in your life, where is the first place you go? Most people write down thoughts, some people meditate or they find someone to talk to. Others find a different median to vent and let all their frustrations out. This would be the social media networks we all have come to know and love.

Why is that we have to go to a social media site to vent our frustration? Is it that we think everyone cares? Do we think that these people will help us? Or are we only using this as a way to reach out to the real problem? Let’s be serious, no one cares about your frustrations or your problems. Some people will genuinely care but the other 98% don’t care at all. You are just pure entertainment for them, especially if you are one of those people that use social media as a diary. I know a couple people who spill all there problems on social media and I feel like I pretty much know there life because it’s laid out in front of me. If they have a problem with someone they would rather say something about the person on a social media (without disclosing their names) instead of talking to that person and resolving the issue. Has social media consumed our lives so much that we really don’t know how to communicate with people directly anymore? We would prefer to sub-tweet (via Twitter) or indirectly post a picture status (via Instagram) about them. Are we really incapable of settling things directly instead of indirectly?

With social media being a diary for some people I feel like I really know what’s going on in people’s lives. I know who hates there baby daddy, people who are no longer friends, people who use illegal substances and want to get caught by the cops, people who don’t have a jobs, what people do in their free time, who is part of the IG modeling service and the people who are ONLY twitter famous.

Even with the fact that I am very observant person, social media has really consumed our lives and I really don’t care whats going on in your life EVERY SECOND of EVERY DAY. Yes its “social” media but c’mon let’s stop putting our whole lives in this social media diary. Let’s get back to human interaction and not waiting for a crowd of people to give you a million likes so you can tell someone to go fuck themselves.

Escape

You ever just wake up and just feel sometimes that you just want to escape? Just escape from work, school, responsibilities, problems, life and just disappear into your thoughts. Just sit in your thoughts and get clarity on what is really going on around you. We tend to rush or let situations guide our decisions without first sitting down and really thinking about them. Sometimes we become overwhelmed with a lot of things that we forget to take a step back and analyze. When we become overwhelmed with situations around us it is always good to just escape and evaluate “What’s a priority and what isn’t a priority.”

The best decisions are made when you have a clear mind. When you escape into your thoughts and you analyze the situation. Just having an escape from reality relaxes your thoughts and lets you just evaluate everything currently on your plate. I have learned that you can’t escape everything and will always need to get back to it but it gives you a moment to breathe. Sometimes all we need is a moment or just a way to slow down everything that is going on around us. Some people find their escape in music or books. Others create their own escape from the world. I feel that everyone needs some type of escape just to gain clarity and not be bothered with the outside world. If you know me then you know my escape is my “cave”. I like to be away from the world to get my thoughts together and not deal with any problems. Your escape is a way of running away without really running away. It’s like your summer home where you can just relax, be away from your problems and determine your next move. You can’t let everything or everyone follow you wherever you go because this is YOUR escape. Everyone wants to escape sometimes.

” Everyone has a way out. . . a way to escape . . .a place to go to. . . be free from pain, stress, despair, people and just life. We all just need an escape to evaluate everything and relax.”