Things You Should Work On For 2013

It is now 2013 and all I’ve been hearing is “new year new me”. Ummm I am pretty sure you said that last year and the year before so please take a seat. I feel like if your going to say that make sure you prove that with actions. Words really don’t mean anything unless you can prove that you are going to change. The Things I feel everyone should work on for 2013 are evaluating your friend circles, trying to stay consistent, being more verbal, building on trust/loyalty and believing actions over words.

Evaluate Your Friend Circle
Some things I think everyone should work on for this year is evaluating their “friend” circle and eliminating those people who don’t bring value to there lives. Its cool to be surrounded by people but if they are not doing anything with there lives besides popping mollies and sweating, well then reevaluate your friendships. If you need to cut people off, cut them off immediately. You can’t carry around dead weight forever.

Stay Consistent
Consistency should be another thing we work on. (Consistency in our work, with our friends, with our families and in every day life) When you are not consistent with things, they tend to fall apart quickly. Also try and be consistent with the people around you. We all hate having people who flip flop on things they say so try and prove to them why consistency works.

Be More Verbal
Verbal in the sense of communication, people who say nothing tend to end up with nothing. The best thing you can do is voice your opinion and be direct with people. Never try to sugar coat shit, just say what’s on your mind. Mean what you say and say what you mean.

Build on Trust and Loyalty
In this day and age people really lack trust and loyalty to each other. It’s all about throwing someone under the bus. We should work on building on the trust and loyalty we have with the people that are close to us before searching for more people to include in our circles. People can say that they are loyal or you can trust them but words can only go so far. Build on what you already have before searching for anything new.

Believe Actions Over Words
Last thing is that people should not give words so much value unless they are backed up by actions. We tend to believe words just because of the person who is saying them but all in all if their actions don’t align with there words what’s the point? Before you believe 100% of somebodies words make sure they have proven themselves to you with their actions. Actions should always tell you if someones words carry any weight to them.
“Nothing is predestined. The obstacles of your past can become the gateways that lead to new beginnings“-Ralph Blum

What If. . .(Part 2)

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It has been almost 2 years since my first blog (What If –Click here to read it) and I feel that I have evolved as an individual. I am still Kevin but I have learned so much from life. I don’t think about “what if” situations anymore because I feel those are really negative. It’s all about making “what if” situations a reality instead about wondering hopelessly.  
We can say we don’t like taking a risk but we can’t let our lives be defined by fears and “what if” situations. I feel that I have been the biggest risk taker, just because I like to live life. I take risks no matter the consequence, just to say, “yeah I did it.” The worst that could happen is that you hit a bump in the road and have to take a different route. Sometimes we get stuck in our heads wondering,” what if this doesn’t work out, what if this doesn’t go the way I want it to or what if I say something wrong” instead of just going with the flow and saying/doing what we want. When we start thinking “what if” then things fall apart and you start to question your actions whether good or bad.
Sometimes we look back on things we should have done instead of just moving forward, learning from them and creating a better version of ourselves. If we constantly look back at “what if” we can’t look forward and see “what will be.” Live life, take risks and don’t let “what if” situations define you.
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the things you did” ~ Mark Twain

Do You Think About Me? / Reciprocation (Topic Chosen By Munchy)

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I’ve heard this question a lot as of late. To be honest I feel that you would know if someone was thinking about you at all, right? My thing is I only communicate with people who communicate with me or that cross my mind. A couple of my female friends feel that they have to ask the guy in there life, “do you think about me?” If you have to ask that question then there must be a real problem. I feel that actions speak louder then words and if someone thinks about you then most likely they will stay in contact with you or perform actions where you don’t have to ask that question.
If they are your boyfriend/girlfriend I would assume that it is normal to tell them that you think about him/her a lot. If you are just talking/getting to know each other it could be the same deal depending on how far a long you guys are in your relationship. Just know if you are “talking/getting to know” someone that actions will show you if they are really thinking about you.
Think about this though, are actions always reciprocated?
For some of you that don’t know what reciprocation means, it’s defined as a mutual giving and receiving; a mutual exchange; a return in kind or of like value.  Basically are the actions that are performed reciprocated in a manor where you understand what direction the person wants to go with you? Based on communication, consistencyand reciprocated things you should be able to figure out if you have to ask yourself this question. Instead of asking someone “do you think about me?” you should be asking yourself “has this person been consistent with me? Have they communicated with me clearly? Are things reciprocated?” 
Then you will be able to answer your own question.

Too Much Pride (Topic Suggested by Kie)

Pride is one of those things that everyone has no matter what. People take pride in things they do or what they put effort into, but sometimes pride can be damaging. When I’m referring to pride I’m referring to the pride you have with other individuals.  Too much pride to take the first step or make the necessary moves that you need to, to get something done.

Sometimes we have those situations where we made a mistake and we know we are wrong but don’t want to own up to it. That’s when our pride kicks in. Our pride is just saying to us “I am not the type of person to apologize or admit when I am wrong.” If it’s going to hurt your friendship/relationship with someone wouldn’t you put your pride to the side for a moment? Having too much pride is just like saying “Oh I will wait for them to hit me up first because I don’t contact people first.” This usually results in both parties not hitting each other up and everyone getting mad because they have too much pride. When you are dealing with two people with too much pride, things don’t get resolved unless one person just puts it to the side and fixes it.

Pride is a good and bad thing but we have to know when it’s okay to be prideful and when it’s not okay. If it comes to the point of losing someone great in your life don’t do it. Just take the L and resolve the issue. Wake up and don’t let having too much pride bring you down. You are not always right, things can’t always go your way and your opinions are not law. People have feelings and should be heard. Too much pride will cause you to lose a lot of great people in your life and will inevitably make you the worse person to be around. Think before you act, and never let too much pride hold you back from seeing greatness enter your life.