Seasonal Friends

You ever meet those people that just want to be in your life “sometimes” or just temporarily want you around? Lets just call these people “Seasonal Friends.” Just like the seasons they don’t stay very long. In the beginning everything is great but eventually you guys just drift apart. Sometimes it may be a lack of communication or just people moving on and didn’t want to take you with them (vice versa).

We all get that random calltext from someone we haven’t spoken to in a minute that’s like, “we use to chilltalk all the time, what happened?” Sometimes life happens and there was nothing to keep us together. Sometimes though it comes down to the effort people want to put into the friendships. It always comes back to investing time in something for it to grow and it has to be done by both parties never just one. If you want a temporary person in your life then go for it but I feel that it’s a waste of time to have a “seasonal” person in your life. We all deal with seasonal people in our lives till we actually find the people who are there to stay. We tend to forget people always judge us on the people we surround ourselves with.
            If you feel that someone just wants to be around for a season it’s always good to let them go now instead of later.  We are quick to call people we have a good time with “friends” but do they really deserve that title?

Communication

So as you may have already noticed a lot of my blogs go with each other in a sense. A lot of them usually just reference one part of a larger topic. This topic will be referencing a topic I talked about awhile. (“Communication Goes 2 Ways” <-->Click to read this blog)

Communication is one of those things that a lot of people lack and fail to realize how important it is in everyday life. Things may go wrong if the right things aren’t communicated or made clear. I know I am not the only one that get the text messages or phone calls of people just saying “Hey why we don’t talk any more?” Why are you asking me this? I feel like if I am going to put effort into communicating with you, you should do the same.  
The reason I think we stop communicating with people is because we hate putting all the effort into something that should be shared 50/50. Communication goes 2 ways and should be treated as such. You communicate with whom you want to communicate with but next time you try to put a value on someone, check how much they communicate with you. Someone’s value greatly increases in my opinion when you factor in there communication ability. 

Are You Using Me?

As the title suggests, “Are you using me?” is a question that needs to be asked sometimes.  We should already be analyzing the situation and figuring out if someone is using us. Sometimes we try to see the good in people when realistically not everyone has good intentions.

You can easily pickup on stuff if people are not consistent with you. Consistency (click on the word to be sent to my blog about it) is one of those things that can’t go unnoticed. If someone has a routine that they do for you, you will pick up on it. If they don’t do it one or two times you will think to yourself, “what’s going on?” When you do one or two good deeds for someone they always want to keep you around because they know you are dependable. Sometimes it gets to the point where they constantly ask you to do stuff for them just because that’s the type of person you are. Have you have ever just asked someone “are you using me?” If you feel like things are not being reciprocated or in the sense being returned in the same way maybe you should.
We all have that gut feeling where we are treating someone good but the things we are doing for him/her are not appreciated. People sometimes fail to appreciate the good things you do for them and if they continue to use you without appreciating your greatness, maybe they are using you. People can still appreciate you and still use you at the same time but you have to be able to have a cut off point. Ask yourself before you do anything else, “Is this person using me?”

(Poem) The Hopeless Romantic

Stuck in an endless loop of confusion

Wondering why I’m considered a hopeless romantic

They say there is no hope for a romantic like me
Hopelessly wondering if cupid is shooting the wrong arrows
Or maybe he’s just missing his primary target

Being disappointed so many times,
You start to realize that cupid isn’t for you.

Being the hopeless romantic that I am,
I hope he would just leave me alone and let me do me.

Attracted to these mindless puppets,
Who accept the things society throws at them.
Is there a place for a hopeless romantic like me?

A person who invest time in getting to know you
A person who calls you beautiful instead of sexy
A person who does things for you just because.

. . .but really, is there a place for me?

You know what . . .

I’m still stuck in this endless loop of confusion
But I understand why I’m considered a hopeless romantic

It’s cause I appreciate your flaws, which make you different from the crowd
Your personality, which attracts me to your style
Your smile that can take all my cares away
Your strength, that drives me to be a better me

Maybe I am a hopeless romantic,
That believes genuine people still exist

Maybe I am a hopeless romantic,
Just because I appreciate you for being you
And not another one of those mindless puppets

. . .but is there a place for a hopeless romantic like me?

~Kevin Pierre