Genuine

This topic will be referencing a little bit of what I talked about in three of my other topics  (“ Appreciate”, “Friends with no filter” and “Sabotage Part 1”)<–click name to read other topics
We tend to forget the genuine people who really go out of their way for us. Sometimes people complain about individuals who aren’t always straight with them or who don’t treat them right. Instead of opening your eyes and looking at the people closest to you, you shut the right people out. You feel they aren’t good for you because you don’t know what good really feels like.
Sometimes genuine people are thrown into our lives without us even knowing but we tend to think that if we are being treated “good” that it’s a lie. Society has us believing that if you are being treated well that it’s a fairytale and that it’s not real. They sometimes say “genuine people don’t really exist” or that “People don’t really care or do things for you without expecting some form of payment.” Is it possible for anyone to just genuinely want to get to know you and be that good thing in your life?
Genuine people would rather see you smile and make sure you’re okay before checking on themselves. We sometimes give to much value to irrelevant people in our lives without first checking who genuinely cares. People can ask you how life is going but do they genuinely care? If you really know me I’m the type of person that can be so hurt but still look at you and smile. Who will try his hardest to brighten your day, even if I can’t brighten my own. Genuine people are really selfless and before you think everyone is out to swindle you maybe you should evaluate everyone in your life. Think open who is “actually” there and tries there hardest to make sure your okay.

Appreciate

As each day goes by we tend to look past the people who are in our lives. Sometimes we just don’t appreciate how much someone does for us or how little others appreciate us. Do you ever just tell people how much you appreciate them in your life? Think about at least 5 people whom you can honestly say has made a difference in your life and not once have you thanked them for it. Also, think about the people that you go out your way for but they still treat you like you do nothing at all for them.

They say you never truly appreciate something until it’s gone and when its gone, it’s gone for good. We all have those one or two people in our lives that no matter what is going on they will drop what they are doing just to help us. They never expect anything back from it; they just want to make sure everything is okay with you. These genuine people are part of a rare breed that are selfless and just care. 

Sometimes just saying “I appreciate you in my life” goes farther then you know for the people you care about. When someone greatly influences your life (in a positive way) it’s never good to push them away, you should be pushing them closer to you. People tend to regret the individuals they push out of their lives but the only way some people truly appreciate things is when they completely disappear out of their lives.

Appreciate the people who appreciate you and never let something good slip out of reach.

“Make it a habit to tell people thank you. To express your appreciation, sincerely and without the expectation of anything in return. Truly appreciate those around you, and you’ll soon find many others around you. Truly appreciate life, and you’ll find that you have more of it. “ ~Ralph Marston

Sabotage (Part 2)

            The second part of this topic is basically going to touch on how the people around you can sabotage you. The minute you let someone into your business they will either hurt it and think they are helping or hurt it because they want to hurt it. It’s cool to tell people stuff that is going on in your life but if they aren’t able to keep there opinions, comments and nosy self out of your business then things tend to crumble around you.

             You can say you like someone to one of your friends but maybe your friend likes that person too and makes quick moves to squash that. “Yeah I hear they just like to have sex and keep it moving, they don’t want a relationship.” It could be the littlest thing that could damage something. Once you let people in they, 8 times out of 10, sabotage something good and you end up regretting your moves.

            Friends can sabotage your relationships more then you think. They can always provide you with negative advice that would make you second-guess why you are happy. Not everyone is for you; they will intentionally sabotage you because they don’t want you to be happy. Sabotaging your happiness is what people love to do, so be observant and listen to yourself before you listen to someone else.

Sabotage (Part 1)

Hey hope everyone is enjoying 2012 as it is almost over. Today’s topic I am referencing Wale’s song “Sabotage.” Basically it’s talking about something that is going good but the person sabotages it because they pretty much are not use to it. Also it talks about other people who you let into your relationship that try to destroy it.
First I would like to touch on people who genuinely have someone who want to treat him/her well but they end up destroying it because they are not use to it. They think they are not deserving of what ever is presented to them when in reality they deserve all of what they are getting. I know people who just sabotage the mess out of their relationship because they say, “oh he/she is treating me really well and I feel like I need to start something because this is not real.” Yes people do this and when the person backs off or moves on with life their next statement is, “All guys/girls ain’t shit.” Wait . . . .What?! You are not serious right now because you definitely destroyed something good you had going on.
People think they are “undeserving” and think that if something is going well for them then it shouldn’t be happening at all.  Who gave us this mind frame? Who made us start thinking this? When we start saying “ Yeah I feel like I am undeserving of these things that him/her is doing for me,” you will start to believe it and eventually destroy everything around you. Negative thoughts breed negative results.