Being Yourself: “You Do Too Much”

Another day another topic to discuss with people and see what they think about it. You ever have those people in your life that do just “TOOOOOO” much. Instead of just taking that extra step, they go an extra mile just because. I get told I do too much sometimes in the sense of helping people and making sure they are happy. Is this bad? I don’t think so, it’s just me being myself and assisting others just because they needed help. To some people doing too much annoys them, just because literally you’re always going that extra mile to make sure everything is okay. Sometimes though you get those people who say “Yo you do too much just stop.” That’s pretty much just telling you to tone down what you do or just stop doing it all together. When someone says that what do you do?

You have to realize it isn’t an off and on switch, and that without most of these people going that extra mile you wouldn’t be able to do most of the things you do on a regular. This is an experiment I did maybe a month or so ago where I just stopped doing “too” much and worried about myself. It was about a 1-2 week experience because of 6 people telling me I do “too” much and that I needed to stop so I did. The outcome of this experiment is that I was a jerk; I didn’t care to listen to anyone’s problems, I was worried about me and me alone, I didn’t care about what anyone was going through or their feelings, I wasn’t at all supportive on peoples endeavors and communication with people was dead to me. Ten times out of ten people regret what they say especially if the changes affect them and they are not use to it.

Moral of this story is just be yourself, if people start to think that your doing “too” much is a problem stop for awhile and see how they feel about it. It’s more so how you feel about it than them. You can’t change who you are just because people say things just learn to accept who you are and BE YOURSELF!!

Fall For Your Type

I really had to reference Jamie Foxx for this topic, because every time I hear this song my thoughts go into a random trance and just started writing. Falling for the type of person that consumes your mind and makes you happy sometimes is a bad thing. Especially if you KNOW that something bad will come out of it. The whole thing about falling for your type is that you just have to live life and go with the flow. You don’t even know what your type is until you actually meet them. You may say that you want someone 5’5, brown eyes, thick thighs, college educated but 9 times out of 10 you will find something that isn’t what you had on your list.

You always have that mindset that, whatever person is presented to you that if they have these particular qualities about them then they are not your type. The next question is what if they fit some of the stuff on your checklist but not others? Do you just keep it moving or go with the flow? The best and most wonderful people you meet in your life are those you meet on some random stuff. Sitting there searching for your type of person will lead to failure upon failure upon failure. Live life, get out of your norm, experience something with somebody who isn’t your type and see where it goes. You never know unless you give it a try.

Would you allow your significant other go through your phone unrestricted??


This topic I let sit around for awhile because it is one of those questions you have to ask yourself when you get into a serious relationship with someone. Would you allow your significant other to go through your phone unrestricted? Well would you? I’ve received 80% of my responses through, text messages, twitter and facebook and the verdict is YES. Why yes you ask it’s because if you built up that trust then what do you have to hide since you guys are serious about each other. Of course everyone needs their privacy but at one point in the relationship you give up your privacy because of the trust that you have built up.
For those who said NO their reason was that it’s your personal business of what is going on, on their phone not their significant others. If they trust you then they should know that you’re not doing anything behind their back. 
The next thing that comes in to play is trust . . . do you trust the person enough that you don’t have to go through their phone? Trust is the building block of relationships, if trust is lost then more arguments tend to erupt over nothing, stress may buildup, self esteem is lost, or the relationship just ends. 
Next time you are with your significant other think to yourself “Would I let you go through my phone?” Is there a trust issue or is it just because it’s your privacy you are trying to keep?

Would You?

Would you allow your significant other to go through your phone unrestricted?? YES OR NO?? 
If you have a reason why please post in the comment section you can post anonymously