” H-A-T-E-R-S” part1

Good day all, today’s topic will be about “haters” this is part 1 provided by us by my good friend Jamel sooooo enjoy . . .

Jamel V.
Hater is defined as the following:
– to dislike intensely or passionately; feel extreme aversion for or extreme hostility toward;.
– to be unwilling; dislike: I hate to do it.
– to feel intense dislike, or extreme aversion or hostility.

The definition of a hater in today’s society is somebody who follows all of these definitions. In addition, they are people who smile in your face, lie with their teeth, and have no problem bad mouthing you behind your back. They’re the kind of people that embrace negativity, especially towards you. They want nothing but bad things for you and wish bad “ju-ju” upon you in all levels, including relationships, jobs, and other opportunities.

A hater can do one of two things. A hater can bring you down, often making you question yourself and wonder if the things they are saying about you are true. They make you wonder your self worth and value while often stopping you from being on your game. They are often the voice that you hear in your head as you begin to move forward but often move backwards because of doubt and uncertainty that these candy-asses possess. They thrive off this unknown given power to them.

For me, haters give me ammunition. If I’m pissing people off and making them mad because I’m doing something with my life, that’s a good thing. For me, I’m not somebody who is physical and causes bodily harm to others. I’m a person whose actions speak louder than my words. I love to mentally mess with my haters because no matter what they say to me, the fact that I eat, sleep, and breathe success, the fact that I’m moving higher and not at the half step level that they’re at, and the fact that I’m Jamel Vanderburg and they’re not makes them a bunch of no good scum sucking bastards. I have far better things to do with my time than to be concerned with people’s comments and actions that make turd markings look like hieroglyphics and something to actually care about.

Bottom line: haters motivate. Don’t let them bring you down, but elevate you to where you wanna be, have to be, and need to be. I go by this motto: At the end of the day, I’ll always win because while you’re stuck in the past and stuck in a parasitic world, I’m soaring with the eagles and crapping on your negativity in all ways. HA-HA!!!

Why Do Taken People Act Like There Single?

So as some of us come to realize whenever we go out to the clubs, parties, get together or just some type of social event. There are always those one or two people who act like there not taken so they are all over the place. Questions is why are you taken bout act single?

Everyone encounters someone like this no matter where they go in life. One of my experiences is that I met this chick at a party and we made eye contact, she grabbed my hand and pulled me in (I’m a person who loves to network, meet new people and just learn) . She then started to ask 21 million questions and literally had me with her the whole night, dancing talking and having a good time. We took each other’s contact info down and continued to talk back and forth for about a week or so. She added me on facebook and to my surprise it said she was in a relationship, when she told me she was single. She got a lot of pictures with her hubby and all that, when i asked her “Why are you acting single?” she simply said to me that she temporarily is single and looking for someone new but she is still with her boyfriend. After this i told her to delete my number and keep it moving i will not be involved in somebody’s game.

I understand when you out with your people your significant other isn’t around so you want to do you at the moment but leading people on is a big NO NO. This to me shows how little respect you have for your relationship and the person you are with. Respect and trust are the 2 main ingredients to a relationship and to have one without the other is impossible. So once again “why do taken people act like there single?” maybe because they feel as though they need to see if they still got it. They try to see if there able to pull stuff how they use to when they where single. They just need some type of rush or change in their life.

It is cool to network and socialize with people where ever you go but just know that in the back of your mind you are “already taken.” When getting other people’s number’s it should be all about networking and being upfront with certain things if there getting attached to you.

Music For The Moment

Music we listen to when we are relaxing, at a party or with our friends. I know at times we listen to music that usually fits our mood or the time of day. With today’s type of music we can find music to fit ANY situation that we are going through or just that time of the day when you are about to start the weekend and just be HYPE to leave work.

You just got paid and your soupped and want to buy things
Money to Blow(Birdman)

You @ the club you bag like 5 numbers
P.I.M.P.(50 cent)

Fucked over by someone
On To The Next One(Jay Z)

Seriously why you in my way?
Move Bitch(Ludacris)

Deep stare into each others eyes,ready for the next step
Unthinkable(Alicia Keys)

Feeling like a baller(after your paycheck)out with girl at mall
Throw it in the bag REMIX (Fabolous)

Found that person that you only want
One Love(Trey Songz)

Leaving work on a Friday to start your weekend
All The Way Turnt Up(Roscoe Dash)

We have songs that we always associate with what’s going on around us ALL the time especially if you listen to a lot of music. This I believe shows how unique and strange some of us are. If you don’t do this, well then you’re just a completely normal person who does not think outside the box. Like Kesha said in her Tik Tok song “Wake up in the morning feeling like P. Diddy.” Seriously?? Can you imagine waking up feeling like him? Your stock going up, your ciroc drink is the shit, your sean john clothing line doing well, like really??? I want to wake up feeling like P. Diddy more often than I would be like,”Hey you! Go to Juniors, get me some cheesecake and some coconut ciroc with some pineapple just.”

Music is the gateway to our souls, so listening to it and relating to it always makes us feel better. This is music for the moment, that moment in which you are feeling some type of way and just want the music to explain how you are feeling.

Respect

Today’s topic refers to respect and how in this day and age no one really has it anymore. Respect has many definitions such as to show regard or consideration for, to refrain from intruding upon or interfering with or respects a formal expression or gesture of greeting, esteem, or friendship.

Now the first thing I will talk about is respect between kids and parents. You know growing up you always listened to your parents, every time you wanted something bad you tried to cry and they would make that face at you and you would just stop crying. Our parents would just strike fear in us that we would have so much respect for them. The kids growing up in this new generation are a trip though. For example, Mom and son around 6 years old walk into the toy store to get him one thing for his birthday, but as a kid you always want more, so he starts to scream and holler for more toys.

Mom: “Jack we can only get you one toy at the moment

Jack: “But mom I want this one too!!”

Mom: “I’m sorry only one for now”

Jack: “I WANT IT NOW NOW NOW!!”
*Screams and Runs around all hyper*
Mom: “Okay pick whatever else you want.”

You don’t ever let your child take control – I know my mom would have backed hand me if I got any louder than her or scream and brought attention to us for a dam toy. Don’t ever spoil your child because they will believe that they can get ANYTHING from you at anytime.

Being of Haitian descent you are taught about “wants” and “needs” and wants NEVER outweigh the needs. Some people can relate to seeing that one child in the supermarket running around and acting a fool and that one lady chasing after them like “stop running Bobby come back over here.” This is a NO BUENO . . .you would be like my mom would not have tolerated this and would have caught you by the ear and turned it so much that you would know you made a mistake by running around. That just shows the respect the child has for you which are NONE, parents you need to get it together. Respect as it pertains to everyone else; this is something that has to go both ways.

Respect for women from guys is something that comes naturally and is taught (Hopefully) as you are growing up. Women should have the same respect as men have for them this is really a two way streak. Being disrespectful to someone shows that you don’t care about the other individuals feelings and don’t consider that you might affect them in the long run. Being respectful to your elders or just anyone shows that you are a person of good quality and character.

RESPECT find out what it means to me….and you know the rest. At the end of the day, it comes down to communication. Remember that actions speak louder than words. When you blow smoke, make sure it’s both ways and not one.

(Edited by Jamel V.)