Mind Your Own Business

Good Morning everyone well . . . . Today’s topic is about minding your own business. We all have the tendencies of wanting to know what is going on with people we know especially if it some type of big issue. Sometimes we have to realize that people keep us out of certain things for a reason. Us as human beings love to be curious and always want to be in the “loop” of what’s going on. Why do people feel that they need to be told about EVERYTHING that is going on in your life?

Some people feel that they need to be told about EVERYTHING because they feel that they thought they are part of your life and feel as though if they tell you everything you should be able to tell them everything as well. That’s really what it boils down to. They were able to trust you with information so they hope in turn you can do the same. The keyword here is “TRUST” you cannot trust everyone with information pertaining to certain things. There are those who you may consider your best friends but they still blabb your information to the world. Then there are those who you aren’t really cool with that won’t tell a soul. This is where you decided who to share your business with and why you want to share it with them.

Some people as your friends like to be told about some of your business especially if you are going through something. For example, if one of my female friends is going through something with a dude and informs me about it, I expect her to continue telling me things so I can support her through the whole situation. (Such as when he hits you up, what does he say, what you say back to him etc.) I really don’t want you to just tell me one day just because you want to tell someone and then you don’t tell me anything and I catch you crying in a corner at the club because he sent you a random text about you being worth nothing to no one. I would feel some type of way because I could have done more but I didn’t.

Minding your own business refers to a lot of things but sometimes as a friend you have the right to ask those random questions. (“Oh you are going on a date?” “With who?” “Who was that person you where talking to for 2 hours?” “ You and bob chilled the other day?why?”)

In conclusion let’s sum up the four main words of this blog:

Mind- the mind is a terrible thing to waste. Don’t waste time and efforts with my life and concerns if you’re not allowed into the circle of trust. If you’re not paying my bills or having sex with me, let your mind wander somewhere else until I decide to reel you in.

Your-not mine, not his, hers, ours, or theirs-the owness comes up on YOU and you alone.

Own- what’s possessed and propertied by you

Business- has many definitions, especially when it comes to personal lives and what’s important to us.

It’s important to make sure that life’s actions are appropriate for us to deal with and share for the good and the bad. If you’ve got a rat, snitch, or an untrustworthy person in the circle you created, get them out before the bubonic plague known as your business starts spreading to areas you don’t want.

(Edited by Jamel V.)

Standards in Relationships

As we continue our topic on having standards . . .today’s topic refers to standards in relationships. So i got some friends to express there thoughts on standards in relationships.

Kevin Pierre
I believe that when it comes to standards you “MUST” think about them before you venture off into the world. Especially when it comes to relationships, people complain about being hurt and this and that but that just means you have to up your standards a bit more just to get that right thing that fits you. It’s like when you’re making Cherry koolaid, it taste okay at first and then after it gets a little bitter and it stops having that buzz that you like. So you update your taste buds to some Grape koolaid, then this has you good for awhile and then loses its appeal to you, so you update to something else. Standards is having something that fits you, that appeals to you and meets your requirements not just “SETTLING” for anything. I was told by my friend “Never just settle for anything” if you just settle that means you don’t care what you let in your life and if that happens you just get hurt.You can’t just “PICK” someone just because there 5’5, brown eyes, thick thighs and a beautiful smile. It has to go deeper then the norm of outer appearance and certain things the person can do for you.

Of course once in a blue I’ll have my friends give there opinions on my topics there opinions i trust and pretty much feel the same way so why repeat the samething twice? lol so . . . .

Munchy Today, people are getting into relationships without setting any standards or boundaries. Although, one may ask,”What are some standards in a relationship?” Personally I think that those standards reflect on the ones you look for in a man/woman.

1.)Respect
(My theory)I’m a very observant kind of gal and I believe that If date a man who is completely disrespectful to his mother, nine times out of ten he will not have any respect for you.

2.) Double-Standard
Don’t implement any rules that you know you WILL NOT follow. *pet peave* Fellas/ladies– If you know you are a flirt don’t tell your partner not to if you are not willing to change and abide by YOUR own rule.

3.) Education
I value education, so it’s extremely important to me! A man that can speak for himself and teach YOU something is a beautiful thing ladies (without insulting your intelligence, of course). In life you are constantly learning, so why not learn more about the opposite sex?

4.)Loyalty
We all need someone who will be faithful to commitments and obligations. I want to know that the person I’m dating always has my back whether it is a with small helpful deed or to be there for me emotionally (e.g. advise, tot lend a ear, shoulder to cry on,etc). They are not just focused on YOU, but also on the GROWTH of the relationship itself.

Andre F.There are a few things that I hold dear when it comes to someone that I date. It has changed as I have gotten older and value women much more so now.

I value intellect. There is nothing more appealing to me than a woman who can go punch for punch with me on any and every issue that we talk about. When a woman possess this quality, i feel we always have something to talk about and if we always have something to talk about we in turn are willing to tell each other everything. Communication is key!

I value self-respect. Any girl that has self-respect for herself can surely be a potential wifey for me. Its a lot of whores running around today and I don’t like that.

I value women who understand traditional roles but wont succumb to them just because a man tells them to do so. Girls who can cook, clean, do it all. Your 5-star chick basically. These women are become more and more rare.

I value looks. I am not shallow but I like for my shorty to compliment me in the looks department.

I also value a women who is god-fearing! For she and I to have a good relationship, we both have to have a strong relationship with GOD.

Those are the main ingredients. These are are things I value when I get serious with a chick.

Having Standards in 2010

Hey Everyone! Today’s topic is having standards in 2010. This basically refers to the people you surround yourself with everyday of the week.

Standards is defined a rule or principle that is used as a basis for judgment or an average or normal requirement, quality, quantity, level, grade, etc. (dictionary.com)

Now that we KNOW what standards are we have to sit there and ask ourselves “Do I have standards?” You will know immediately by the type of people you surround yourself with. “Do I have friendship standards?” Do you just let anybody into your friendship circle? If you do then you have no standards in my opinion. This always depends though especially if you have a good group of friends that you trust and one of them wants to bring someone into the loop. If you trust this persons “standards” then you should be fine and nothing will happen, BUT if the person that is brought in is just the SCUM of the earth I think there should be some type of intervention for this case. Me personally I don’t let everyone into my friend circle . . . I break it down into 4 categories:

Acquaintances – People who are not of friend caliber yet and I talk to here and there on some random stuff (Once in a blue)
People – Those who have earned a little bit of my trust and that might have a little potential of being hit up on a regular
Friends – Those who you can have actual conversations with and sometimes don’t give you the greatest advice but are still there
Best Friends – Are those who are always around no matter what, you can call them at 3am and they will pick up the phone pissed as hell but still be there for you to listen. They are pretty much your cheering section and always want to see you do better

When it comes to friends you have to have standards because if you surround yourself with “ain’t shit people” you start to become one of them. Standards when it comes to friend’s lets you know who you CAN rely on and who you CAN’T rely on.

Now standards as it pertains to relationships, this is something you build up as you go in and out of them.

TO BE CONTINUED . . . . Standards and Relationships . . . .

The Other Guy (Topic Chosen By JamJam)

Good Morning Readers! Hopefully everyone had a good weekend and enjoyed it! WELL today’s topic is about “The Other Guy.” The other guy I am referring to is the one that females refer to as the one that f**ks them over so they say F all dudes.

It always starts off boy meets girl, they start to talk about themselves and then it gets down to talking about past relationships or people who we talked to before them. (It always good to know about the last person because you can learn things not to do that will piss off the person you trying to talk to now.) When I’m talking to a female first thing they ALWAYS say is the dude fucked her over for another girl or he took her for granted. (Now that we know what the other dude did we try not to make the same mistake) Sometimes when I am talking to my female friend’s conversations usually go like this:

Kevin: So why aren’t you with anyone your mad chill, relaxed and great to talk too.
Female: Well, I’m over dudes at the moment the last guy I was talking to he fucked me over and I am just over dudes, there all the same
Kevin: PAUSE! . . . all dudes are not the same, sorry the ones that you messed with where a different breed. I apologize for them.
Female: Dudes really aren’t shit though they all want the same thing! I hate them all
Kevin: You should rephrase that because the dudes YOU FUCKED with aren’t shit so get it together

That’s how most conversations end . . . . with them saying “Dudes ain’t shit” just say “Dudes I’ve fucked with ain’t shit” then we wouldn’t be so mad. Now that we know your situation, which is very common among females, what is the next step?

Most times when females say they aren’t into talking to people at the moment it’s only because they are still feeling some type of way about the other dude. This other dude messes it up for the rest of the male population because most females are self conscious about this stuff. Some think “okay I don’t want to get hurt again I will play it safe now”, “I don’t want to waste time on another person again” or “I’m not cute enough for anyone else” (YES I’ve heard females say this one). All you can do as a guy is just be there and be supportive , try to prove them wrong that all guys aren’t the same. Females have to remember though they need to stop messing with little boys and start messing with men who won’t treat them like that. Live, learn and move the hell on . . . you can’t let your past troubles define what you do in the future with someone else. If you let your past rule your life then you’ll live in your past forever.